[Anon]

Hello there,

I thought I would post here as I have a bit of a problem. I really like this girl who I have known for a while lost touch and got back in touch again.

We had slept together, but I wasnt sure if she just wanted to be friends, I have seen her again recently and really like her think shes great got the whole package funny, kind, good to be with and dead good looking but I dont think she relises this.

I seem to get to nervous when around her and think about telling her how I feel and it gets to the point where it the nerves make me a feel abit sick and I end up looking like a fool I think when have to nip off to loo as I feel i might be sick… (Sounds silly i know)

I’m thinking of sending her a message telling her how I feel and I belive it was how I was nervous of how she would react as I’m not sure if she just wanted to be friends.

Any advice would be great as I wouldn’t want to lose her as a friend if she didn’t feel the same.

Thank you

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Don’t share your anxiety with your love interest. Especially one you don’t know that well. Women like men who are confident and self-assured, in general. Therefore, it’s a lot better strategy if you take care of your personal problems — personally!

It sounds like your anxiety is a result of fear of rejection. I think that if you accept the fact that rejection is part of life and EVERYONE goes through it regularly (I know — shock, right?!) in dating, business, friendship and lots of other more mundane arenas, you’ll feel relieved. 🙂 You are not alone and you are not abnormal if you are rejected. So if you can truly process and accept this then the idea that you may or may not get rejected won’t be so scary to you.

Also understand that rejection is not an entirely negative situation. In fact, I think that rejection is a gift! 😉 The reason is that it puts you back on the right track if you’ve veered off your natural course. If a woman rejects you then that’s good information for you because you can start looking for one who WANTS you, and [i]not waste time[/i] on someone who doesn’t.

So find a way to understand and accept the universal facets of social rejection and you’ll see that they’re normal, natural and nothing to be afraid of. I think you’ll also really get a lot of help from reading Date Out of Your League, a book I wrote for men who want to get the girl. Here’s the link where you can purchase (it’s ONLY $14.95) and download immediately the book: [url]https://www.askapril.com/dating-advice-books.html[/url] You can read it this weekend and be ready to practice your new skills you’ll learn from the book starting next week!

Let me know if that helps and how things go. And please join me on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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