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Update – ijust got an email from him. He didn’t even mention not having contacted me for 5 days. Instead, he invited me for a Friday night consisting of dinner at a fancy restaurant followed by, conveniently, homemade dessert! I don’t like it one but :(. How should I respond? Thanks!

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I’ve been dating a man for 7 months. We are both in our 40’s. I am divorced with one child age 14. He has never been married but has a child age 7 from a previous relationship. I have my child full time. He has his child every other Saturday night. Our pattern has been to have Friday night date night and see each other Saturdays too if he does not have his son. We have been communicating at least every few days. He refuses to text which would greatly increase communication since I have little privacy, so we mostly email. We do talk on the phone occasionally, but I am the one who usually calls him because he says he never knows when my child is with me. I know he’s not married because I have spent a lot of time at his house. After 4 months of dating he told me he’s in love with me and then, after that, we’ve been intimate. We had our usual Friday night date last weekend which went fine and he had his son the next day. He mentioned this Friday night and has been my understanding that we have a date. But then I didn’t hear from between Friday night and last night – 5 days! When I did hear from him, he didn’t even mention not having contacted me for 5 days. Instead, he invited me for a Friday night consisting of dinner at a fancy restaurant followed by, conveniently, homemade dessert. The dessert offer was followed by ahem, romantic suggestions.
I had actually begun to worry that he had vanished and do not want this to become the status quo of our communication between dates. I am concerned that if I just play along that’s what will happen, particularly since I’ve always been concerned about his potential for commitment-phobia as a never married man, age 49. Besides, he’s met my sister and I’ve discussed him meeting my daughter, which he seems receptive to, but he has never discussed my meeting his son, except for the one time suggestion that my daughter could stay with his son while we go out. He says his babymama would be upset and give him a hard time if she knew about us.
I’m thinking I should forfeit the Friday night date in a way to encourage better communication between dates, not worse.
What do you suggest? Thanks!

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