[missylynn]

Hi everyone, I’ve been searching for the right forum to get some serious advise/help… Now first off, I dont want to put ALL of this out there just yet so I’m just going to say I have done some very hurtful things to my partner .. We recently started getting back on track a little over a year ago.. our relationship has been going on and off for the past 6 years.. Most would look at me as the bad one in the relationship but I have changed my ways/veiws towards my actions and know I was wrong.. I’m only 20 years old about to turn 21, my bf is 19 about to turn 20.. so obviously we were real young when we met, and VERY shortly after that, probably less than a year, I moved in with his family.. We hit a few HARD rocks inb our way but always end up back together.. But lately I have been feeling very strongly that I’m not sure if this is worth anymore time.. I admit I’m not the most mature woman, but my bf has to be the most IMmature guy I have met being his age.. I know he is who he is and I cant change that but when we have been through so much and tried so hard I would think he might want to do a little changing as I have.. In all honesty I actually feel like I havnt changed.. just grown up.. might I add we cannot agree on 1 thing.. food.. music.. tv.. literally ANYthing.. It makes it so hard for me.. because I am open to try anything.. when he is against ANY thing new.Anything and EVERYthing is my fault.. NO matter WHAT it’s about.. He says hurtful things to me that should not be said or brought up at all.. He is the biggest jerk sometimes and the BIGGEST baby all the time.. It’s gotten to be incredibaly unattractive and he wonders why I don’t want to get intimate with him… 😯 He also does not work and has too much anxiety too go too school.. which is holding me back also because I need to finish school.. (we live in a country like place.. not close to busses and I gave my car for rent..) He is a good guy that wouldnt do his gf wrong but I think he is just such an opposite of me that this has all been a huge waste of my time and it has taken away my teenage years.. which if I am stiil with him after I’m 21 he will also take that fun away from me.. Because there is no trust.. Its gotten to the point that I really don’t think he is the right one for me… Its sad.. I care for him so much and I only want the best for him.. but I want the best for myself as well.. WOW this is a long introduction! Thanks to anyone who takes time to tell what you think!
missy

[Ask April Masini]

This isn’t complicated. It’s pretty simple and straightforward. Your boyfriend doesn’t work, doesn’t go to school, doesn’t treat you well, doesn’t make you feel like you want to have sex with him, and you know it’s over, but you need me to tell you what you already know, but haven’t been ready to face: It’s over. Break up with him and move on. You’re ready for a more mature relationship and a more mature and successful life. He is going to drag you down as long as you’re with him.

It’s time for you to break up, move out and focus on your own life and all the success you can muster up for yourself in every avenue. 🙂

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