[WorriedGuy]

Okay I’ll do my best explaining my problem. I have been with my wife for like 13 years. We were together in highschool, and had a daughter right after we graduated highschool. We have had our share of problems but manage to make things work. So we both work full time and our daughter is ten and in cheerleading. My wife is in her second year to get a nursing degree dong night classes two to three nights a week. I am doing my best to keep house clean, And doing all the Laundry every weekend so she can focus on her school and my daughters cheer which is a pretty busy schedule. Anyways for the last few months I have been getting a really bad feeling that she is cheating one me, or seeing someone, or doing something behind my back. I don’t really know why I feel his way except for the fact that she just acts different. I don’t feel a connection from her when we make love ( which only happens very often, and never from her wanting it only me trying) even when she comes home I don’t feel like she likes me or she is hiding something from me. She is always on Stupid facebook, and I have kinda spied on her phone, and she is chatting with and old crush she used to have in highschool. Nothing on her facebook shows me that she is doing anything but she aways keeps her phone close and on silent almost like she doesnt want me to be able to see it. I just have a bad gut feeling she is hiding something I just don’t know what. Please anyone help me get some piece of mind. Thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Whether or not she’s cheating on you, the bottom line is that the two of you are growing apart. This is something that you should change and since the best way to change a relationship dynamic is to change your behavior, YOU should start revving things up romantically and socially because this will lead to better results in the bedroom. 😉 It’s easy to fall into a rut after a 13 year marriage, a child, two busy parent schedules and the extracurricular life that your daughter has because it requires so much energy from the family. But that’s no excuse. It’s time to focus on your romance and your adult relationship. Make sure you take our wife out on dates and begin to woo her back, the way you did when you first met.

If you do a full campaign to win her over, and that works, your problem should disappear. If it doesn’t work, then it’s time to ask her if something else is going on — but use the order I suggested.

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