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There’s this guy who is my best friend, and about 2 months ago we’ve gotten really close. At first it was weird since I have never thought of him that way, but we talked about the situation, and both agreed to just take things slow.

So that wasn’t the problem anymore, the problem is, he use to be with my best friend. Now she is completely over him, and has moved on, but he hasn’t. Things were going great with me and him, and I really fell hard for him. Then all of a sudden he just randomly shut me out, and he wouldn’t tell me what was going on. I knew he still had strong feelings for my best friend, since she was his “first love” but its been almost 2 years since they were together. We talked about it, and he knows my feelings for him, and I know now how he feels towards me, but things still haven’t changed. I have offered to help him get over her, and I told him many times that I’m there for him, but he just keeps pushing me away, and I don’t know what to do.

I think if he got over her he could be happy, he says wants to get over her and he has tried but he says he can’t. And to me that sounds like hes just scared to let her go. And he doesn’t talk to anyone about it, he just keeps all his feelings in, and is just left sitting there with all his thoughts, which probably doesn’t help, and I think if he just talked to someone, anyone, and got some stuff off his chest, maybe he could feel better. I just wish he would give us a chance, I think that would help him get over her. I’m willing to wait for him, but I don’t want to end up waiting forever… thats what I’m afraid of.I know he has strong feelings for me as well, he just doesn’t know how to let go of his ex, and I think hes scared to make me feel “second best” as he put it. I honestly never wanted someone so bad in my life. So giving up for me is not an option. I have ever felt this way about anyone before, all I want is him.

What should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You should let go and move on for a couple of reasons.

First of all, he’s making it very clear he’s not interested in you. He’s still hooked on his ex-girlfriend who is your best friend so if you’re in his life, she’s going to be in his life. If he’s not over her, he’s not available to date.

Second of all, he’s shut you out. Pay attention to his behavior instead of trying to make excuses for it. If he wanted to date you he would. He doesn’t. 😳

I’m not sure why you want someone who doesn’t want you, so badly. If giving up is not an option, you’re in for a very long, bumpy and miserable ride.

It’s important when you date to go out with men who want to be with you. You’d do well to read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], a book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right. You can buy it at the link I just gave you or on the websites for Barnes & Noble and Amazon.

I hope that helps. See you @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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