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It was pretty evident my ex and I both still have feelings for each other. This is based off of the following:
– Spends time talking to me after we’ve been broken up for a year
– Since this past July, has kept in touch with me, still kissed me, stared at me, constantly stands around me, listens in on my conversations and adds to them no matter what he’s doing
– Intentionally passes me, insults the girl he hooked up with while we were broken up on purpose while I’m standing there and even recently, apologizes for doing it
– We’re at the same concert, and he came with friends but, he only hung out with me the entire time, holding my hand, kissing me on the cheek/kisses me in general, shares his drink with me, offers to hold my things so, they don’t get ruined, etc. Hugged me from behind.
– I visit his school, he takes me to his football game, he talked to me the entire time or messes around with me to make me laugh.
– Lent me his jacket, paid for my dinner/breakfast, let me stay in his room when I got screwed for sleeping arrangements, cuddled with me in the morning.
– Throws things at me, unties my shoe, play fights me.
– Stays with me at parties all night, doesn’t go with his friends or leave me alone (even though he knows you can fend for myself and even tells me that he knows I’m capable of doing so.)
– Comes when a friend shows me around his campus and comes to walk me to the bus stop, tells me he had good time and he’s glad I came.
– When I get stranded at the bus stop, he helps me find a bus ticket home and wants me to tell him how I’m getting back to school.

When I left his school to come back to mine, everything seemed fine.

Four days passes. Nothing happens.

Finally, we talked yesterday he told me he doesn’t want any sort of relationship. This I can deal with and I knew this. But in relation to that, he said, “I don’t know how I feel about you and I don’t think I want to figure it out,” even though it was pretty clear, not just to me, but to everyone, that he still has something for me and he’s said it previously.

Can someone help me figure out what exactly is going on here?

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

It’s hard to accept that someone doesn’t want to date you when they’re nice! And when they’re [i]really[/i] nice, it’s that much harder. It’s a lot easier to accept someone who’s a jerk, as uninterested than to accept that someone who’s basically a nice guy is [b]not[/b] interested in dating you, but the truth is…. that’s what’s going on. He doesn’t want to date you — but he likes you, and he’s a nice guy — he’s just not YOUR nice guy and he doesn’t like you enough to commit to a relationship. If you happen to be there, he’s going to enjoy your company and be that nice guy he is — and even flirtatious — but when you’re gone, he’s not calling or texting or asking you to visit or sending flowers or love notes — he’s living his own life.

So, yes, you did jump to the wrong assumption. It’s understandable that you did, but now that you understand what’s going on, you need to act accordingly and move on 😉

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