hi April
im new to this but have always liked the idea of posting on a forum, things have now got so bad between me and my other half that i need to get some advice.
Im 21 and 8 months pregnant. my OH is 24 and wouldn’t know how pregnant i am. he hasnt taken any interest in a long time but claims he is ‘over the moon’ to be a dad, this isn’t the only problem. Obviously i am now on maternity leave and OH works 7-5 mon-fri, on tuesday eves, thursday eves, saturdays and sundays he plays football and then goes for a drink with ‘the boys’. I have to stay up to let him in, (we live with my parents until we find a new place, we have lived here since before the baby) sometimes he doesnt come home, but everytime he will turn his phone off and ignore my texts and calls when all i want to know is that hes ok and when hes going to be home – thats fair isnt it? for example last night he went for his work xmas do said he would be home by 2am latest ….hes still not home at its 10.20am, no phone call no texts as his ‘phone battery died’. it stresses me out coz i worry so much when hes out, hes done so many stupid things when he drinks i cant help but worry.
Let me give you some backround on our relationship. Weve been together since may 09, in aug 09 i caught him talking to a girl on the internet asking for naked photos and arranged to meet up with her for sex, i confronted him about it before the day they were due to meet so i will never know if he would have gone through with it, he claimed he wouldnt have and he was only talking to her for an ego boost. so that was 2 months in, shortly after i found him texting his ex talking about their relationship before and asked if she missed him. In oct 09 i went on holiday for 2 weeks without him, during this time he went to a strip club (knowing how much i hate them) and then lied to me about going, it wasnt until my brother told me i found out.. There have been so many incidents liike this through out our relationship, i dont trust him and sometimes i dont even like him but since i got pregnant i cant help but stay with him for my babys sake even though he makes me feel like shit and treats me so unfairly. We have spoke about this in many heated rows and he says i treat him like shit and speak to him like shit, but thats my hormones flying all over the placve but he wont understand it.
I honestly dont know what to do theres so much more to it but i think ive bored you enough, any advice you have please tell me. i feel like im on a downwards spiral with nobody to turn to.
Thanks, Jemma 😥
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