I think you nailed your problem when you said you’re a little controlling. The idea of losing control of the relationship and of this boy is devastating you. The question becomes, what are you afraid will happen if you do lose him? What is the worst thing that will happen if you’re single and you’ve lost the boy to whom you gave your virginity?
When you can spell out the worst case scenario, and then imagine what that will be like for you, I think you’ll see that it will feel terrible, but that it will pass, and that eventually, you’ll start to feel better, and normal again, and you’ll meet new boys and find someone else who loves you and who you love back.
Nobody escapes getting their heart broken at least half a dozen times — and it hurts EVERYONE!! You are not alone. Life has pain in it, and there’s no way to avoid pain, but the pain passes as you realize you’re part of a bigger world. You have friends and family who want to spend time with you and comfort you. You have neighbors and classmates who would like you to invite them to have coffee or go to a movie. You don’t have to be alone just because he’s not around, but you do have to work a little harder to nurture this new life as a single person.
I hope this helps. Let me know how things go.
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