Hello,
I am a 37 year old Man, who is engaged to a 27 year old Female. We have been friends for many years and started dating almost 2 years ago. We got engaged about 8 months ago. All was going well until her Mother moved in with her. I was warned by her and her family that her Mother is impossible ad no matter what I do she will not like me. She has never liked anyone that any of her Children have dated or married until the relationship was over, then she liked them. I’m a good man and regardless of the situation, I treat her with respect and always use tact. The Mother is very possessive and gets angry and jealous when we spend time together. It has got so bad, that her Mother wanted to come to our Valentines day dinner. She also comes on Vacations with us. She tells her Daughter lies about me, for example, that I treat her Children bad when she isn’t around. This has caused a huge strain on our relationship. Well, we really got into it this week and are not taking a little break from each other. We live 2 hours away from each other and spend the weekends together, but have decided to take a month away from each other. I need some things to get better. Here is my problem. Last weekend was my Birthday, We were supposed to get up Early and my Fiance and I were supposed to spend the day out doing some fun stuff. Come home and take the Kids to a Movie and then to a Sushi Dinner and Hotel. That was the plan. Here is what happened. Her Mother, insisted that Her Daughter takes her to the Grocery Store. She took her time getting ready and we didn’t leave the house until 3pm. We had to rush to do our fun activity,which was a cool obstacle course and zip lines, then to a dry luge. We didn’t make it to the dry luge. When we got home, her Mother was out in the car and lost, Not answering the cell phone. This got us worried and we went out looking for her. We didn’t get to Dinner until 10pm. This ruined the birthday, furthermore, I didn’t even get a card or gifts for my Bday. So, the next Morning, We had to rush home so she could spend the day with her Mother, since she spent all day Saturday with me. Well, this weekend, I asked if she had any plans. She said no, So I said don’t make any. So, I made surprise plans for Mother’s day. Thursday, She told me that she was taking her Mother out on friday and that she had a going away party on Saturday. I got mad, and mad my complaint. She an I started fighting about her Mothr and the situation. She explained that seisgetting pulled in all directions. Kids, Work, Mother and Me. I told her hat I want to be one of the priorities. She said that she is sorry, ut she can’t put the effort into all of us right now. II love her and the kids more than anything. What should I do?
