[mc6295]

my husband has the constant need to flirt and attempt to hook up with other women. it’s not like we are having problems. everything at home is fine. of course he claims that he isnt trying to cheat on me, but i know he is. what do i do?

on a more specific note…. ok i know i shouldnt but i look at his text messages to see who he is texting. i only do this because i know he likes to flirt and such. again, i know i’m nosey, let’s move past that part for now. in the last couple weeks, i found he has been texting some girl. i dont know who she is or how he knows her. i dont know what do do about it. i have tried to bring it up indirectly but of course he denies everything. if i say something, he will know i have been spying on him and be really pissed off about that and it will probably make the whole thing worse. should i block her number from his phone so he cant text her? i just dont know what to do!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, don’t block her phone number from his phone. It’s not going to solve your problem. 😳

Second of all, I’m not sure how long you’ve been married, but the key questions is when did things change and why did they change? I assume that they weren’t always like this. If you can answer that question, you’ll have the key to the relationship.

Trying to force your husband not to find another woman to sleep with isn’t the way you want your marriage to be conducted — I’m quite sure of that. You don’t want to be his mother — you want to be his wife. So without placing any blame, ask yourself if you’ve fallen down on the job at all. Where are the holes in your marriage that allowed the fabric to begin to tear open?

When you can answer those questions, you’ll know what to do.

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