I’m a 51 year old man that has never been married and no kids. I’m not desperate in the least, but yes I do get lonely. I have fallen in love with a co-worker at a warehouse. She is 52 and has been married twice and has 5 grown children- lots of emotional baggage. I don’t know when or how or why I fell in love with her- it just happened. I finally got my courage up to ask her out for lunch one day and she said that she doesn’t believe in getting involved with co-workers, but she gave me her number anyway. We have had several phone conversations over the past few months and they have been pleasant, but never any talk about us. A month ago, I asked her again for a lunch date and she was agreeable, but we couldn’t find a free day for it. Two weeks ago, I asked her and she just shot me down cold and it stung and hurt. At work she stares at me a lot and I wonder if she knows what is in my heart and she is just scared to get involved in a relationship. Several people have told me that she really likes me. She claims that she doesn’t have a steady eddy. I don’t know what to do? Some days we hit it off and other days she seems like she is a million miles away. I’m a very humble calm man and sometimes I think she does things to get a reaction from me. I just want to tell her how wonderful and beautiful she is and how blessed I am to have her in my life-but how? My heart is very heavy. Should I wait a few more months and ask her out again?
