[ilups]

Hi friends, i need some serious expert advice from you guys.
here is my story:
I have fallen in love with my best friend. But she has a boyfriend. But she doesn’t like him much. Whenever i ask her whether she loves her boyfriend or not , she says that she doesn’t want to think. When i told her that i love her, at first she was very angry and scolded me very badly. But now again we are normal(that means good friends). She says she doesn’t believe me and i am only infatuated towards her. But i know i really love her. Now can anyone tell me how to convince her that i really love her?
Its very painful when you love someone and that special someone doesn’t believe you.
please guide me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It takes two people to make a relationship work. If she’s not interested in you, my advice is to move on. The problem is that you’re friends — but friendships with people of the opposite sex don’t work because one person usually feels more for the other, at different times. That’s what’s happening to you. Frankly, that’s not a friendship. It’s a romantic interest. 😕

My advice is to drop the friendship — because it’s not really a friendship, and if you’re not so available to her, and you then begin to pursue her romantically (only!), you’ll get a clearer picture of her interest in you. Right now, she has nothing to lose because she’s got your attention as a friend. If you’re only a potential boyfriend, then she’ll have to make a decision about whether or not she wants you in her life because you won’t be around all the time.

I know it’s a shift in your thinking and your behavior, but it works. And if she isn’t interested in you, even after pursuing her, then it’s time to move on. 😉

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[ilups]

you mean to say i have to ignore her for some time? okay i’ll do that from today.

any other better advice?

[ilups]

TODAY when i asked her that does she really love her boyfriend, then she said that she should love him ethically. she is a little conservative type. what to do now man ? i am so confused.

[stacylynn]

Omg I have dealt with this same issue! It sucks because you don’t want to risk loosing the friendship over trying to make it into more. But feelings are feelings and you can’t deny them! I got some advice on this website my friend told me about, it’s free and you can text chat w a relationship expert. Mine was named Jc and he helped me out a lot. The website is called wizpert.com/beta/amforum Hope it helps!

Take care,

Stacy

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The bottom line is that she isn’t interested in dating you. 😳 Instead of deciding why her relationship with her boyfriend is implausible, you should really focus on dating women who want to date you.

Staying friends with this woman is just going to lead to heartache for you because she isn’t interested. I know you’re trying not to lose the friendship, but it really isn’t a friendship since you have romantic feelings for her. 😕

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[ilups]

the bottom line is i don’t want to lose her anyhow. i just can’t. :'(

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I know you don’t want to lose her — but you can’t lose something you don’t have. 😳 I’m sorry this is hard for you.

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