[Sally]

The message wasn’t hidden. It just hurts too much to look at straight on. He told you, clearly, that he doesn’t want the relationship, doesn’t want to live together, and doesn’t want to work on things. Calling you “tolerable” and saying he stays only because things might magically work one day isn’t love it’s avoidance. He’s choosing comfort and stability over honesty, and he’s asking you to carry the emotional weight while he waits to see if life fixes itself.

When he says he wants things to stay the same because they might get better, what he really means is that he doesn’t want to make a decision. He doesn’t want to leave, and he doesn’t want to try. That leaves you stuck in limbo, slowly shrinking.

You’re not wrong for wanting to save your family. But a family can’t be saved by one person alone. Your heart telling you to leave isn’t giving up it’s protecting you. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do for your kids is show them what self-respect looks like.

[Kevin]

It’s a bit of a complicated situation but I believe there is a proper setup that can work for something like this. You both need to talk properly about what arrangement would truly be best for the children’s well-being.

When children are involved, it’s no longer just about whether you are happy or not, what matters most is that the children are in a stable and healthy environment.

Maybe he still loves you, which is why even though he feels something is missing or he’s not fully happy, he still hasn’t left your home. Always remember that communication is the key to solving any problem or misunderstanding.

As for the part where you feel uncomfortable with his ex’s involvement, like she seems to still act like a stepmother to his children, it’s important that you also tell your partner how you feel. Let him know that you are not comfortable with that kind of setup, especially with people coming in and out of your home freely, as it can feel like a lack of respect for you as his current partner.

Whatever decision you make, always consider what is best for the children.

[Member]

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