[Anonymous]

Hi,
There’s this girl a met some months back online. I really wasn’t looking for anything at the time but by chance we started talking and ended up seemingly connecting, so I continued to correspond with her. We really don’t live far from each other so after awhile of talking/txting she was like we should hang out sometime, so I ended up taking her out to a movie. Honestly I didn’t think a movie was the best first date thing because u really don’t get alot of time to talk but it was something she wanted to see. I thought that it went ok not perfect but not bad either. I did start to develop feelings for her and I thought she had some feelings for me too just based off of the things she would say to me or the few other times we hung out, we’d cuddle etc.. So after a few months I wanted to kinda gauge what she was really looking for and if she saw me as anything more than a friend. I told her that I’d like to be more than friends with her and her response at that time was she was glad I told her but that she liked being single at that time. I was like thats cool or whatever and so we kinda went to just talking infrequently, but still the flirty sometimes sexual talks and such. She’d tell me things like how she didn’t want to let me down or hurt me and what not. It started confusing me because I’d feel like she wanted me to be something more to her but at other times it seemed like or relationship was strictly platonic. I withdrew myself sorta from the situation because I didn’t know what to do other than just try to be a good friend even though I did have feeling for her. After awhile from not hearing from her she said I should create a acct. on facebook to be able to talk to her since she was having problems with her phone. I did so and it seemed like things were starting to heat up between us but I still kinda approached the situation cautiously. It even went as far as some naughty pictures being sent to me. So while commenting in a page someone thought that we were together and she started saying how we were strictly just friends and besties. While it was true that we weren’t together I was kinda annoyed because to me she was sending many different mixed signals. So I log on my acct a few days ago and see her talking abt some guy she just met and is now “in a relationship with”, and to be honest I was kinda angry then hurt but I really don’t know if I have the right to feel that way. I almost feel like she was leading me on or maybe she never really was that into me although what she would say contradicted that. I have no problem if she found someone who makes her happy but Its like she maybe was just hanging on to me as a second option possibly. I feel like deleting her off my acct. and erasing her phone number out of my phone, am I overreacting? I don’t have the urge to talk to her anymore but I do feel like telling her how I feel. All of this stuff transpired within the last 30 days from me starting my acct. and the pics being sent to all of a sudden her being in a relationship after all this. On a side note when I started my acct. I looked over her page and she had a post about our first date and someone asked her how it was, lol her response was ugh.. awkward he’s really cool and sweet but I didn’t feel much sparks. I was kinda mad about that because that was not what she told me and if she didn’t feel anything, I feel that she should’ve told me and everything that she said to me after that said otherwise. I guess its a moot point now but I just needed to get this off my chest, sorry for rambling on.
Thanks for any advice!

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It sounds like you made a mistake by continuing to befriend her after your first date when she said she just wanted to be friends — and not anything more. By hanging around you held out hope for more, but there was nothing more to be had. 🙁 Yes, she flirted with you, but the bottom line is you never went out again.

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