[Anonymous]

SO my ex and I broke up a couple months ago after 6 years together. We were engaged, and unsure if we were really ‘meant to be’. I wanted to work things out a couple months ago, and love him SO much but he was unsure if we should try.

Now, he’s saying that he would love to work it out and would like to “go on dates” but not be dating (too many labels). He says he can’t picture anyone else as the mother of his kids but STILL isn’t willing to commit to working it out fully and being together.

Whats my next step? Do I just go with what he wants and hope that it works out or do I need to give alot of space and get him to miss me?

thanks!

[Ask April Masini]

Run! In the other direction. I’m not sure how old you both are, but if he’s dated you for six years and can’t commit, you have a guy who doesn’t value you. You deserve more. Forget him (I know this is going to be hard, but you deserve more than you’re getting from him.) and start dating other men to find Mr. Right.

I’m sorry this is harsh advice, but you’ve wasted a lot of time with a guy who’s clearly not ready to commit when that’s what you want. If you stay with him, prepare yourself for more years without a commitment. You’ve made it way too easy for him to behave the way he has. If he shows up at all, at this point, it needs to be with a ring and a date. Otherwise, get back out there and find your Mr. Right! 🙂

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[Anonymous]

Hi April
I am 25 and he is 26. I am just afraid of letting go of how great we were. If he can’t be happy without me, should I just let him see how that really is?
He is scared we wont work out and are wasting our time, but it feels like we are still together. He still talks to my brother, and calls me every other day.

I am just confused. I understand that guys need space sometimes and the wedding could have freaked him out since we were having issues and were planning on forever. And there isn’t a physical relationship right now. Is it really right to walk away completely?

[Ask April Masini]

He’s told you what he wants — dating with no commitment. 😯 This after six years and a broken engagement. 😳 I think it’s a bad deal for you, and if you take it — because you’re banking on “how great we were” 😕 — you’re going to be single for five or six more years at least.

I advise you cut to the chase and let him go completely. If he comes back to you at all — it needs to be with a ring and a date. Six years at your age is a long time to date a guy who now says he doesn’t want a commitment.

Sorry. I hope that helps. I know it’s not what you want to hear.

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