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so im tryin to make this as short as poss…i dated this guy in high school until bout freshman year in college..we broke up but we became really close friends..now after he finishing with college he moved back home.. i just got out a relationship for about 6 months and we have been seeing eachother since we dont have a “title” but i mean..we go out on dates.. we call and text each other pretty much everyday and hang out at least 3 times a week…should i worry that he hasnt asked me to be his “GF”??? a comment sticks out to me is on the 1st date we went on after he moved back he said to me he didnt want a GF untill he was done with grad school..should i be concerned about him sayin that…. his actions say way diff to me!!…my friend says that i need to tell him we need to have a title cause its been now 6 months of us doing this 😕 ..what do you think ?? you think he is using me…and im just not seeing it..or should i make a time limit and move on..or just ask..i never had a problem with it until my friend brought up that he is using me… and it made me 2nd guess myself…am i over thinking or should i press the fact that we need to title..i feel like he is acting like a boyfriend just wit out the tittle but now that my friend is saying i should have that its bad i dont..im feeling kinda stupid…should i leave this one alone and let it play out or do i really need to make it an issue?? 😳 im actually really happy 😀 i feel like this is one of the best guys ive had in a long time he treats me great!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The problem you’re having is that your boyfriend told you he doesn’t want a girlfriend until he’s done with grad school, but he’s dating you and you want more than he’s told you he’s willing to give you. You’re trying to extract “a title” from him to try and give yourself some security. Does that about sum it up? 😉

If you’re looking for someone who’s ready to settle down, date for a year and then marry, he’s not a sure thing, and he’s made it clear to you. Don’t look to him to be someone he’s not. Instead, be clear what YOU want from yourself; from a man; and from a relationship. Once you’re clear on your wants and needs, then you can try and match yourself up with Mr. Right.

Let me know if that helps, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[Anonymous]

Thanks ur soo right that not what he wants right now…and I’m just more of a relationship type..so I’m taking it should be honest with him and move on. Ill. Let you know how it goes.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good luck! I’m glad I could help. I hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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