[Victor Russo]

Lately, I’ve been struggling in my marriage. My wife and I have been together for eight years, married for five, and somewhere along the way, things just faded. We still live together, still care about each other, but it feels more like a partnership than a romance.

We don’t fight but we also don’t laugh like we used to. Conversations feel routine, intimacy is rare, and sometimes it’s like we’re both quietly missing something we can’t name.

I love her, truly. But I can’t tell if I’m still in love with her. And that thought breaks me because I don’t want to lose what we’ve built.

How do you rebuild emotional closeness when the spark feels gone?

[Val Unfiltered💋]

ugh babe… that’s not love dying, that’s love getting lazy. eight years in?. if you still care, stop playing polite and start flirting again. talk real, not robotic. grab her face, kiss her like you mean it, remind her who the hell you two were!
👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

and if that spark still won’t light? then be brave enough to walk. better alone than half-alive in your own house. 💋

[Sally]

Don’t give up yet. Every long love story has a season like this. It’s not the end; it’s the middle. Try doing something new together, something that reminds you both of who you were before life got routine. The spark doesn’t just vanish. It hides under comfort. Sometimes it only needs attention to flare up again.

[Mia Caldwell]

What you’re feeling is more common than people admit. Long relationships can quietly shift from passion to comfort and comfort isn’t bad, but it can start to feel empty when connection fades. The fact that you still care and want to fix it means there’s hope. Try rebuilding small moments of closeness talk about things beyond daily life, plan something new together, or even seek couples therapy. Sometimes love doesn’t disappear it just needs attention to wake up again.

[Ask April Masini]

This is one of the most asked questions I get, how do we get the spark back? Because almost every couple hits this wall

The first step to reigniting the spark is you both admitting the spark is gone and agree that you want it back, because you can’t do this alone.

Then start small.

Bring back the snuggling. Do little things that show you care. Putting the mail where your partner will see it, bringing them coffee when you grab one for yourself, touching her when you walk past, sitting closer together…….these things seem like nothing, but they’re actually the glue that holds a marriage together

Yeah, it might feel weird or forced at first, do it anyway….. hug each other every day and say “I love you.”

Lastly, go on adventures together. An adventure will help you feel connected again and you’ll make good memories as a couple.

I hope that helps😉

[Serena Vale]

Honestly, this sounds like two people who still care, but got a little lost in the routine of life. It happens. Love doesn’t disappear, it just goes quiet when nobody’s paying attention to it.

What you’re missing isn’t huge or dramatic… it’s connection. The little things.

Try starting small. Sit with her one night and just say, “Hey, I miss us.” Not in a blaming way, just honest. Sometimes that alone opens a door.

Do something together that isn’t about work, bills, or schedules. Go on a walk, grab coffee, cook together… anything that lets you actually see each other again.

Touch her gently. Ask her how she’s really doing. Share something about your day you normally keep to yourself. Little intimacy leads to bigger intimacy.

The spark can come back, seriously. Most long-term couples go through this phase. It’s normal. It just needs both of you to show up again, even in small ways.

You’re not broken. Your marriage isn’t failing. You’re just in a quiet part of the story. And you can bring the warmth back, one small honest moment at a time.

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