[sallypowers59]

I am a senior in college and I have NEVER had a boyfriend. The main reason I don’t have a boyfriend is because I spend the majority of my time studying. Also, I’m not attracted to guys that enjoy excessive partying, which cuts out a lot of guys at my school. This semester my classes have been a little easier so I have been making more time to go do things where I could meet new people. I’ve been more involved in my church, volunteering, and etc …. but there hasn’t been hardly any guys there. There was this one guy that I have been trying to get to know for the past couple weeks who I have had the biggest crush on. Today, I looked him up on facebook and he already has a girlfriend. I’ve tried not to stalk a guy on facebook immediatley when I meet him so I can get to know him without misjudging him, however all the guys I have tried this with have already had girlfriends….. and my heart gets broken even when I wasn’t in a relationship. My mind is going crazy as to why I haven’t ever had a boyfriend. I don’t feel like I put out the impressions that I am desperate, and I don’t think I intimidate guys. I take good care of myself, I have good morals, and I ‘m a pretty positive person. What is wrong with me? Where should I even begin? How can I give guys the impressions that I want to be pursued while staying modest? I feel so inexperienced! Thank you for your help.

[Clara]

You answered your own question about why you have never had a boyfriend — you’ve put school first, and that’s not a bad thing — but now you’re ready and interested. 🙂 So, the first guy you’re interested in has a girlfriend. Next! Time to move on. Dating isn’t easy and I always suggest you improve your odds by casting a wide net. You don’t have to be immoral, but you do have to let men you’re interested in know you’re at least interested in getting to know them, and the way you do that is by flirting. A great smile, laughing at their jokes, showing interest in them — these are all basic ways to flirt. Of course looking cute, smelling good and lingering eye contact, will get you out of flirting 101. 😉

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