[quote]What do I do, should I let it go now, or should I wait this one out …[/quote]
Wait this one out? 😯 What, [i]exactly[/i], do you think you’re waiting for? Him to change? 😕 You to change? 🙄 Neither one is going to happen after three years. He’s made it clear that he doesn’t want a wife. You want a husband. This isn’t a compatible relationship.
[quote]In his defense, he tells me he doesn’t want a ‘wife’, he is happy with his life as it is, he says he would hate to loose me.[/quote]
If he doesn’t want a wife, and you want a husband …. then why are you staying? I think that that’s the real question here. He says he’d hate to lose you, but not enough to buy you a ring and get down on one knee. 😳
[quote]My view is that he has everything in his life that he needs, a periodic girlfriend, although he speaks to me daily, his life on his side of the world … is this normal, can these types of relationships work?[/quote]
That may be your view, but he doesn’t share it. And if he’s threatening to commit suicide when you threaten to leave, rather than whisk you off to the jewelry store to size a ring, clearly, this isn’t working out. If he’s got the choice of marrying you or killing himself, and he’s telling you wants to kill himself, you should really take the hint. 😮
My advice is to move on and don’t get into a relationship or even start dating someone that is newly divorced or that doesn’t want the same things in life you do. Knowing you want to settle down is great. You’re clear on that goal. Now, find someone who shares that goal. When you’re talking about blending a family and having ex-spouses, you need to find as much common ground as possible because the obstacles and challenges are already built in.
I hope this helps. I know it’s difficult, but you can do it!
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