Hey April,
Let me first explain a little about myself. A year in half ago, I was in engaged to a loser guy who treated me very badly. Anything a guy shouldn’t do in a relationship, he did. Well I finally got the courage to leave him, and decided that relationships weren’t meant for me. So I played the field for a bit and had a blast being single.
Then I met this amazing guy. I’m not very religious, but I do feel like he was sent to me. He does everything right. He’s caring, kind, smart, handsome, funny… I could go on and on. Anyways… we just moved in together, and we’re both excited for our future together.
But as I learn me about him and his past girls, I find myself getting angry. I can’t help but ask questions, or even find their facebooks! He hasn’t been in a serious relationship before and his past sexual experiences were with girls he hung out with occasionally but never liked them enough to pursue anything. I know its not his fault. He didn’t have a past to hurt me… and I have a past to so I totally understand what its like to be single and just want to have fun. But I literally get upset with him just thinking of him with another girl. He doesn’t even talk to them anymore. But I still find myself worried that he’s going to leave me for one of them, or even meet up with them for an occasional hook up. Deep down I know he never would, but on the surface it really bothers me. I feel like he’s hurt me in some way when he’s done nothing wrong.
I’ve talked to him about it, and he’s very patient and understanding. But it still doesn’t change my idiotic jealousy. I guess I’m seeking advice to see why I feel this why and how can I stop it? Thanks April!
– Jealous Kassie
