Don’t do it!! Don’t ask him where you are in the relationship!! Don’t tell him you want to make it official!! 😮 You will be making big mistakes if you do!
You have to understand that men and women are different — and even among men and women, any two women may do things differently, just as the same is true for any two men. Therefore, if you take care of yourself, by asking him where you two stand or by telling him you want to make the relationship “official” you’re ignoring his needs. In fact, you may be thwarting the relationship altogether. What you have to understand is that men love to chase women, be the pursuers, and be the ones to call the shots. When you allow them to do this, you’re giving them a gift that pays you back threefold and more! Your man will feel great about himself when he’s with you if when he’s with you he feels like he’s the one chasing, and pursuing you. When you starting making demands for the definition of the relationship, you’re making yourself someone he doesn’t have to chase or pursue — even if he wanted to. You’re no longer the prize he’s going after, you’re the booby prize he gets at the door no matter how much effort he put into things with you.
Your confusion isn’t real, anyway. The reality is that you’ve been dating this guy for three months, and you’re two people who date each other. That’s not confusing. 😕 What you really mean to say is that you want more than you have with him, and he hasn’t offered that, yet. You’re not confused. You’re disappointed.
I know you don’t want to wait, but if you don’t, you’re going to put your relationship in a situation that is not ideal. So go get a hobby and spend your time thinking about other things — so that you can allow him to be the one to bring up taking your relationship to the next level. Trust me, if he is the one to ask you to “be official” he’s going to feel so much better about himself, you and your relationship, as will you, than if you jump his gun, and beat him to the punch.
I hope that helps.
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