[Anonymous]

My girlfriend is really mad at me this is what happened(btw she is 18 and I am 21)

Last night Iasked my girlfriend if I could come over. she said not tonight but tomorrow night you can cause I am busy tonight.Well I kept demanding that I get to come over and I told her I’m coming over now what time should I pick you up.she was like not tonight and I kept saying yes tonight.Well then

I messaged her best friend on facebook (I have never met her friend before but I just knew her from my girlfriend telling me about her! ).well I told told her friend that me and my gf were no longer together that for her to give me her number so I could call and explain what happened.Well

I told her friend that my gf was immature , not My type , that she asked too many questions and all this other stuff.and then i guess my girlfriends friend told her what I said cause my Gf called me all mad and I told my gf Idk why your acting this way . I also asked her friend if she wanted to hangout with me and told her friend that she was pretty and nice to talk to. I guess my gf found out about that too

Well then I asked my gf is she would forigve me , and she told me she needed to think about things first , and well the next day she told me she was willing to work things out if I was and I told her idkk.. and she told me well then thats a no and I said its a idk and she said I need to know if you want to work things out by tomorrow , and well I never gave her an answer and just now I tried to text her and she is ignoring me!

Why is my girlfriend being mean to me? will she ever talk to me again?.now my girlfriends mom doesn’t like me cause of how I treated her daughter and I told my gf that her mom needed to aploligize to me for not liking me or that me and her would never ever work things out.I told her that if her mom didn’t like me that we would never date again.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

What, exactly, do you think she’s doing that’s mean?

Because, frankly, if you asked any woman if you could come over and they said not tonight, and then you DEMANDED to come over, I’d tell them to stop dating you now. 😮

Why do you think you have the right to DEMAND to come over to her house? You’re just dating her — you don’t own her. She’s allowed to say she’s busy — in fact most women do now and then for various reasons.

When you then contacted her best friend, who you’d never met before, to complain about your girlfriend, you chose an extremely immature behavior. A better response would have been to just make other plans with one of YOUR friends — not hers. 😕

Your girlfriend was crazy to even consider getting back together with you! But when you said you weren’t sure you wanted to get back together, you were clearly just trying to engage her in negative behavior, and now you’re upset that she isn’t responding to you?! 😯 Wake up and smell the coffee — you have some serious underlying anger that you’re taking out on your girlfriend — and probably other people in your life.

Take a year or two off from dating and try and develop some sensitivity to other people. Volunteer in a homeless shelter or work with veterans returning from deployment who need help with physical disabilities. You really need to get out of your own head and be grateful for the world around you so you don’t keep stirring up trouble! 😳

[Anonymous]

Dear April I have a similar question to this one. My boyfriend also talks to my friends when he is mad at me and will ignore me. He is also controlling.Like right now he is mad at me . and he will talk to my friends and flirt with my friends and ignore me. Like last week at school he walked right by me and told my friend hey with me standing right there. and he will tell my friends stuff that that he knows will hurt me to hear.So do guys like this do that as a form of control to hurt their girlfriends.To make them mad?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Yes, it’s a way to insult you by ignoring you and shutting you out of your own relationships with your own friends. It’s also meant to hurt you. The bigger problem is that if your boyfriend is angry at you and wants to continue in the healthy relationship, he needs to work things out with you. Going around you, ignoring you and lashing out at you are counter productive. Re-think the relationship. Do you really need this kind of guy in your life? 😕

I hope that helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter.

[Anonymous]

I posted a few days ago about my gf well today I texted and asked her if we could be hookup buddies but not date and she said no and then she said she wanted a boyfriend not a sex buddy and she said go find another girl to be your sex buddy then I said but your better because you know how to use your tongue and I told her I would make being sex buddies worth her while she said Idk what I ever saw in you. and then broke up with me.But I keep messing up and I regret it all so much now that she is gone.When i had her all I wanted was a slutty girl now that she has left for good I wish I had her back. what should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You should think about why she broke up with you and try changing your behavior with the next woman you date. What you’re doing isn’t working, so stop doing it.

Read Date Out of Your League, a book I wrote for men who want to win with women. Here’s the link where you can buy it and read it: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter.

[Anonymous]

Dear April,

My gf has been mean, whiney, controlling, & etc. lately. I don’t understand it. I waited all day for her to get home from summer school, but instead she went swimming in her backyard all day. She tells me I’m her life & everything & loves me…but idk why she gets mad so much. We’ll be talking & she’ll start stuff & say “whatever…bye”. It’s been everyday she wants to fight/argue. What do I do to make her want to talk to me and be a just somewhat clingy?

[Anonymous]

Dear April,

My gf has been mean, whiney, controlling, & etc. lately. I don’t understand it. I waited all day for her to get home from summer school, but instead she went swimming in her backyard all day. She tells me I’m her life & everything & loves me…but idk why she gets mad so much. We’ll be talking & she’ll start stuff & say “whatever…bye”. It’s been everyday she wants to fight/argue. What do I do to make her want to talk to me and be a just somewhat clingy?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Please start this new conversation with a new thread! 😀

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