[LostInLove12347]

The guy I am currently in a committed relationship with (Corey) has always dreamed of being in a rock band with his friends. He is learning to play the acoustic guitar, and I think he has a decent chance of becoming a rock star. He is an amazing guy. He’s funny, sweet, smart, talented, not to mention incredibly handsome. I have had a problem keeping him to myself when we first decided to date just each other. He has cheated on me with at least 4 girls, many times before. But I am weak, so I let him get away with it. But I am worried that if he does become famous, he’ll realize that I am nothing spectacular, and that he could have whoever he wants. I don’t want to be left in the dust. I have talked to him about this, but he insists that he will always love me and will never leave me. I am especially worried because not many girls want to wait until marriage before they lose their virginity like I do, and he is a very sexual person. Therefore, any girl would give him that but I can’t. What can I do to keep him to myself? How can I learn to trust him more? Do I need to change everything I have ever believed in just to be with him? Help!!

P.S.

He has told me before that it’s perfectly fine that I want to wait and he will wait for me, but again, I have a hard time believing that.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your problem isn’t that your boyfriend may cheat on you in the future — it’s that he’s already cheated on you four times that you know about. Instead of his changing his behavior, you’ve taken him back because “you’re weak”. I can guarantee you that this dynamic will continue unless you change YOUR behavior. 😉

In response to your questions: [quote]What can I do to keep him to myself? [/quote]

You can’t. He’s already cheated and probably cheating on you.

[quote]How can I learn to trust him more? [/quote]

This is a trick question, right? If someone cheats on you and lies about it, he’s a cheater and a liar. You can’t trust a cheater and a liar because they don’t put a premium on telling the truth or on your feelings. There [i]is no[/i] trust when you’re dealing with a cheater and a liar. 😕

[quote]Do I need to change everything I have ever believed in just to be with him? [/quote]

You can be with him, but be assured that he’s going to also be with other women that you do and don’t know about.

The problem here isn’t him — it’s that you’ve chosen someone who isn’t committed to you and tricked yourself into thinking you’re in a committed relationship. Time to wake up, smell the coffee and accept the situation — and decide to get that committed relationship you want — with someone who will give it to you. He won’t. 😳

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