Ten years is a long time to be with a man without getting a commitment from him. I think the ex-girlfriend who is also the mother of his children, is just the symptom of the problem. The real problem is that he isn’t interested in committing to you and making you number one in his life. This isn’t something you can make him do. It’s something he wants to do or doesn’t want to do, and in your boyfriend’s case, he’s content with you being a second tier relationship in his life. This is why you’re unhappy. 😳
When men are really interested in you, they’ll want you to meet their parents, family and friends, and they’ll very much want you to be a part of their lives and that includes the lives of their children. That he’s keeping you from his family is not a good sign for your future.
My advice is to accept the fact that you are number two in this relationship, and decide that that’s not good enough for you and to do something about it: move on and find a man who will make you number one. He’s out there, but as long as you’re in this decade long relationship with Mr. Wrong, you’ll never meet Mr. Right.
I’m sorry that this isn’t what you wanted to hear, but the best way to be number one in a relationship is to start treating YOURSELF like number one. The minute you stop taking the back seat, is the minute you will begin to have the opportunity to be a man’s top priority. It’s just not this man.
Good luck, and let me know how it goes. 🙂
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