[rachelxgraham2]

i will read the book but i seriously need help with this..i’m really confused. i spend a lot of time on this site and i appreciate all your help. but i really need help with this right now. if you don’t think he’s interested, then whatever that’s fine. just need an opinion based on what has happened last. thank you.

[rachelxgraham2]

i didn’t chase him though..he asked me when we were hanging out again..i’m just asking does it seem like he’s not interested and was making an excuse when he cancelled last minute. i mean if he’s not interested why ask me when we’re hanging out again.

[rachelxgraham2]

sorry to be such a pain but he texted me friday and asked me when we are hanging out again..i suggested saturday and asked if he was free. he said “actually yeah i think so” and then i said “well if you have nothing going on we can hang out tomorrow night i just work until 8” and he said “sounds good” so on saturday around 4pm i texted him saying “hey does tonight still work for you?” he answered 3 hours later at 7pm and said “no lol sry i just got out of work sry for the late response i have a paper to write ill let you know if im done early” so i said “ok thats fine” and he said “im trying to finish quickly” so i said “dont worry about it your paper is more important lol” and he said “i feel bad i wrote 5 pages already lol” and i said “lol dont feel bad do what you gotta do” then i never heard from him again sat night, or yesterday, or today so far. i’m so confused..if he doesn’t wanna hang out or he’s not interested why ask me “so when are we hanging out again?” i don’t know what to think anymore..he cancelled..he should reschedule with me right?

what do you think is going on? maybe he really had stuff to do? or is he just not interested? idk what could have changed in a day..

[rachelxgraham2]

just an update! he asked me to hang out tomorrow night 🙂 this is a good sign..except for i’m so nervous!!! and i during our conversation i said “i don’t know what we could do but we’ll figure something out lol” and he said “i’m sure we will lol” do you think he’s expecting sex? i don’t know. how far should a woman go on a second date, i’m not having sex..it’s too early

[rachelxgraham2]

okay now i know time will tell but before our date we were talking and he said “if things go well maybe we should do something afterwards” so i said “what would you wanna do” and he said “idk i havent thought of that yet, i’m in the moment” so i said “lol thats good” and he said “oh yeah do you approve?” and i said “do i approve of you living in the moment? yes, its good to live in the moment” and he said “i just hope our moment isnt short lived lol” and i said “what are you trying to say!” and he said “lol kidding i will only bring positive vibes” and i said “yeah, you need to be positive” and he said “and so do you” and i said “i am 🙂” and he said “good”

so i’m just wondering, during the date (regardless of what’s going on now and what happens in the future) does it seem like he was genuinely interested in me..or maybe was extending the date and putting his arm around me and kissing me at the end just his way of being “nice” and “positive.” i don’t know if guys would do all that if they weren’t interested, so i’m just wondering if a guy really isn’t interested in you on a first date, how would he act, what would he do, would he do those things? and why?

[rachelxgraham2]

Do you think I ruined my chance by being too aggressive

[rachelxgraham2]

So basically I guess if he doesn’t contact me then he was just saying he’d hang out again just to be nice correct? I just got vibes from the date that he was interested but idk if I ruined it be being aggressive but then again now he knows how I feel. All I was asking was based off the date and the responses that he would hang out again and give me another chance, does he seem interested.

[rachelxgraham2]

Okay thank you but will you please tell me if he seems interested in me and if it is a good sign that he said he would hang out again and give me another chance? I will back off and let him contact me I would just like a straight up opinion if he seems interested in me or not at all. Thank you

[rachelxgraham2]

hey! thanks for all your help but i just wanted to give you an update. i waited about 4 days after the date and i didn’t hear from him so i decided to text him because i felt that i didn’t show enough interest in him and it’s really been bothering me. so i texted him saying “heyy what’s going on?” and he said “working.” it threw me off that he was short with me but i let it go, and figured he would answer me later on. hours passed and i figured i’d just let him know how i was feeling. so i basically said “listen i enjoyed the other night, and i just didn’t want you to think i wasn’t into things. i do want to hang out again, and if you want that too then great, but if not, then please let me know so we can move on.” i know it was a little forward, but at this point either he’s interested or not, so there’s one way to find out. so he responded and this was the convo:

he said : “nah you were cool, i’d hang out again”
i said : “okay thanks”
he said : “lol”
i said : “lol whats so funny”
he said : “nothing i just didnt know what to say”
i said : “lol loser”
he said : “wow lol”
i said : “wowowow 🙂“

then 15 minutes later..

he said: “you’re right i didn’t know how you felt”
i said : “you didnt? i knew it!”
he said : “well i felt bad vibes”
i said : “like what?”
and then he never answered and i fell asleep so the next afternoon i just sent him a quick text saying “well i’m really sorry i gave off those kinds of vibes. i don’t have an explanation why but i am into it and i knew i gave the wrong impression lol. i’m happy i said something because i wanted to clear things up. think i can get another chance? lol 🙂”

and he said “yeah of course”

is this a good sign? bad sign? does he seem interested still? give me your honest opinion. thanks!

[rachelxgraham2]

did i show enough interest in him do you think? and if i don’t hear from him does that most likely mean he just wanted sex?

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