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In this kind of situation, it’s more about keeping your head very calm. The more you think about it, the worse it will get. So the first thing is: act as if your relationship was over. She clearly needs room to breathe for whatever reasons. So give her space. If she really cares about you don’t worry she will come back very soon. Otherwise, if you split, it means she didn’t care that much.
So, don’t talk/text/facebook anymore. Don’t even spy her facebook account or whatever. Forget about it. Put it on pause and live your life. This is really important because you will show her that you are a men with self esteem and not accepting to be treated this way.

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Clearly, you two don’t have the same state of mind and you need to move on and not fall back on his arms.
It is highly likely that if you step away from him he will try to have you back and I think you shouldn’t. Why is that? It’s because he is taking this decision not on his own, he is just answering of you stepping away.
First loves are often kind of harsh.

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You sincerely need to act more violently about this. Have more self-esteem and don’t let him just walk on you like this. He is clearly behaving not properly as someone that wants to get involved (wedding) with you.
Two outcomes:
1. You have a big argument, even if he accepts not to get in touch with his ex gf, you will have this doubt for a long long time and I’m not sure this is the ideal relationship situation
2. you break up with him and move on to something else. You shouldn’t be treated this way.

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I think there is a lot of change. You need to be careful with this. Communication is key and you obviously should tell her you found these pictures. Tell her you worried and you want to understand what’s going on. She may be angry at you but at least you have been honnest and being worried is a good feeling, it means you care.
There are way too much reasons why she would do smtg like this and we can’t predict what’s going on. You need to talk to her.

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I think you can manage your relationship so that it doesn’t get to a fuck buddy situation.
It seems to me he has shown a lot of interest, he seems really keen and emotionally involved with you. And so do you.
Virginity can be an issue, so I suggest that you start dating but make him wait a bit before having sex. During this period, you will see if he can’t wait and respect you or if he is just looking for some fuck buddies.
I think it seems there is too much connection not to try to start something with him. Getting back to only a friendship will also be a bit ridiculous, I couldn’t be friend with someone I really want to be with. This is just not friendship.

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Man, next time you have a private moment with her, kiss her.
Don’t ask her friend or stuff. Make you own decision. She clearly likes you and you need to sort out if she is just teasing you or if she’s waiting for something more.

Be a man and take it to the next level.
If it works: congratulations.
If it doesn’t: you have been a man and made things move which is great for your experience.
Clearly: make a move.

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Thanks for sharing this.
I think it’s great he made an effort to text you more than he used to. But once again, forcing a guy is not a good way to get something out of him. It seems to be important for him as he mentioned it twice so I think you need to have a compromise with him. The important thing is that he wants to share things with you in person.
He should understand that sometimes you like receiving some texts of him and you should understand that text doesn’t mean that much to him. Find the right frequency: three times a week?
Compromise.

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You should definitely ask him out for coffee. The best would be to talk to him a bit and ask him directly. But if you can’t really get in touch with him, text or call.
Guys tend to like women that know what they want and are pro-active.
Being shy can be quite touching for a guy. But I guess the best tip to overcome you shyness is to think about positive things before going to him. It will make you feel confident and relax.

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