[Badfinger]

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Alright. So I will lay it all flat. I get pregnant.. the just of it the guy wanted nothing to do with either of us. even after i forced dna.

He still doesnt so he is out of the picture. I got married.. for support. I thought it was all I had left.

I was young.. pregnant and alone. I did what I thought I had to do. I didnt love him, didnt even know what love was. But god I was so sure I was going to make it happen.

Our marriage has been HELL. I catch him paying for porn online and having video chats.. with his penis in his hands.. I mean.. hes got 2 ex wives.. ( if that doesnt hurt enough) hes got a kid with each of them. this home I live in.. is what they built. its thier memories.

Not to mention.. hes older than me and in the military. I feel like i havent got to grow with him. i feel like im missing out because..

I never got to feel what its like to have nothing and work your way up. he has handed everything to me. ) except happiness.

seems like all we do is fight. he has cheated on me.. more than one time. and Its killed me. I cant become close to him. I dont feel like i have any feelings for him. hes very controlling. I cant workout without him accusing me of cheating! 🙁 each time we get into a fight.. he takes all the money from our bank.. to HIS bank. making me feel trapped. I think thats the whole point.

I recently met a guy.. Hes perfect. when i say perfect I mean for me. I cant even say how..he makes me feel. everything I never thought I could feel.. i feel. Not ONE thing about him I dont adore. I feel about him the same way I felt when I met my daughter. He brings out things in me I never knew I had. Like strength.

I all the suddden want to step up and change my life around. I all the sudden want college, I want to work and be independent. And he supports everything! Hes amazing, it feels like i have this empty pit in my stomach when I dont speak to him.

We actually met online.. just xbox live.

hes Like my best friend honestly. we never even seen a picture of eachother. we just talk. I always offer him to see me and he says ” no I love this mystery beween us I could never care what you looked like. your perfect” I feel so complete talking to him. its been over 1 year now.. he knows I am married. Knows how I feel. wants me to do what I need to do in order to be happy.

I guess.. I just am scared to hurt my husband. I know I dont love him, but I am not a hearltess bitch. although he can be cold enough.. I am not. I want to leave because I know We are nothing to one another.
What should I do? Am I wrong about my xbox date?!? should I leave my husband?

[Badfinger]

Hi, the OP is very young, still in high school, this is not likely the love of your life.

Honesty is the best policy and this guy is a snake just having the time of his life, having two
ladies at his beck and call basically, a wet dream scenario for a guy his age.
(Would sound like a penthouse forum letter, if HE was writing it)

He needs to grow up and break it off with the other girl, it’s really just that simple or you should move on.
I couldn’t handle that scenario at all, and his excuse for it was ridiculously LAME.
But at 18 ALL boys are LAME in retrospect. I am over 40… Girls mature faster and at that age it usually shows.
When you get older you will agree, if you don’t already, I promise.

Lots of fish in the sea, you have options…

[Badfinger]

This is my gut reaction to your story:
You are overly obsessed with her to the point of nearly psycho to her probably and that is a major turn off most likely I’m afraid.

Get over it, you wanted much more than she was willing to give, move on and don’t sweat it.
So many women available, you WILL find one that more worthy of your time.

I had a lady at my last job who had feelings for me, and she told me she couldn’t be my friend.
I am flattered is what I take away from the experience.
Even if I would have been single and available she had things that made us incompatible.

Other note:
Please use your ENTER key a little more often and proofread long stories, that was very hard to follow/read.

[Badfinger]

Relax and….

I’d just flat out ask her IN PERSON, ‘What’s going on with you and this guy from your past?’

Go from there, based on her response.

Visiting an ex is definitely a bad sign, though, you are paranoid, I would go to the ‘lunch’ or you will never have a clear picture, if she really fights you on going with her, then you know it’s not really casual.

[Badfinger]

I am glad that worked out for you!
Your story is very familiar to me.

I have been married now 10 years and had that rut for a while too, but we are committed to each other and the love is strong, irregardless of our flaws and silly arguments over dumb things and lack of communication at times and dealing with a variety of challenges.

Communication is key .

[Badfinger]

I just want to say, eyes wandering is standard, I maybe married, but I am not DEAD, and I don’t want to look, I have to look. (given my own appetite and often revealing outfits seen in public places)

Heart and sex organs wandering, different story. 👿

I’m glad you worked that out, always consider your instincts, and you avoided an unsatisfactory relationship based on your story.

[Badfinger]

I agree with April, this guy was a total ignoramus on this one and I’d tell him ‘I’m not stupid, it’s over, goodbye, jerk!’1
(kept it clean)
Unforgivable situation in my mind too, I’m sorry you got put in that predicament.

[Badfinger]

It’s hard to be friends with people you LUST after, and she’s sent mixed signals, possible head games, etc.
I would not contact her for awhile and see what happens and actually move on too.
Perhaps all she wanted was to go out with someone and was oblivious to your feelings?
Could be dating multiple people and someone suddenly asked for exclusivity or she now has chosen her man?
Relax, don’t have high expectations, and you are more likely to not get hurt in this process.
Best of luck to you!

[Badfinger]

Right thing, he blew you off completely, I guess: It’s hard to say goodbye might be his excuse, but he’s lame and not worth another second of your time.

or maybe he believes:
Silence is golden?
And you just didn’t take the hint?

Same result, move on, I’m sorry.

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