[Kimaria]

He was married to his first wife at 19 for 4 years. Then she left him because she felt he neglected her and was immature. Then they reunited about 10 yrs later and they remarried. I think it lasted a year or two and she was expecting another child, but left him while she was pregnant. Said it was her fault this time. Didn’t want to be with him. Within a year he met someone else and she became pregnant so they married. He was never really happy with her but stayed because of their child. They were married almost 20 years and recently divorced. It was mutual. They all live in the same state. Maybe an hour or so from each other. I do believe he loves me, and he does make me fell loved, but I can’t help but feel he will always have regrets about not still being with his first wife. Also, although he says he’s never been in love like he is now with me, I’m still a little concerned with his whole past. I’ve discussed it with him, and he always reassures me. Just don’t want to get hurt. Having some doubts and insecurities about him being able to really commit and be sure he’s honest about his feelings for his ex and for what he feels for me. Just wanted some opinions.

[Kimaria]

I feel that you can only express your feelings to him. Let him know that you want him, love him and don’t want to lose him. But, after saying that, he must make a decision. He can’t treat you badly. You didn’t do anything wrong. He loves you and is afraid of
losing you. But, that doesn’t mean he can hurt you like this. You have to talk to him again and let him know that it’s not you’re desicion to end it, but that he has to be in it as much as you are. If he isn’t strong enough to have the long distance relationship, then end the realationship for now. He may realize he’d rather have you in his life long distance than not at all.

[Kimaria]

Well, it’s a little more complicated than that. They got married at 19 because she was expecting a child. They were together for 2 years and he said he wasn’t mature enough so she divorced him. They reunited after 10 years and the same thing happened. She eas expecting another child so
remarried. She left him after a week because he said she had a lot of issues. He said she wrote him a note saying it wasn’t him, but her this time. She is remarried to someone else now.
He got married to a different women 20 years ago and they had a child together. They just recently got divorced. His past is not the best, but he is the nicest, sweetest man I’ve ever met. We’ve been together for almost a year. We fell in love and want to continue the relationship. I am recently separated and have 3 children. I know he loves me, and he says he’s never connected with anyone like this before. Neither have I. I’m just insecure about the fact that then he remarried his first wife and was committed to the relationship the second time, that it broke his heart and he’ll never get over it. I know he loved her and wanted it to work for the children too. I guess I’ll always feel like I’ll come second. Makes me doubt
Whether I should pursue relationship further.

[Member]

Posts