[Anonymous]

The t/s is not the only one who seems angry, in fact, many of the posters I’ve seen in here are ridiculously childish, shameful and raging, and for what? This is supposed to be an advice forum. Many of you are on this forum to get advice for your various situations, and that doesn’t make any of you better than others. Problems are problems and you’re all on here still trying to get help, so act mature and refrain from hypocrisy.

“jaga”, when you went into the relationship you knew the kid was an emotional wreck, but you got involved with him anyway. The second you spoke to him and immediately felt depressed, that should have been a warning sign and you should have ran the other way. It seems to me you were desperate for love to the point you wanted to get it from anyone, including an obsessive, miserable Mikey. You need to stop worrying about “why” he did what he did to you and worry more about “why” you allowed yourself to be taken through emotional rides by this boy. No man is better than the wrong man: learn to love yourself enough so that you won’t settle for bottom of the barrel little boys, and instead spend your time with good, strong men who are actually worthy of what you have to offer. Make them earn your attention and kindness. If he didn’t do it to you he would’ve done it to someone else. His instabilities are not your problem and yet you made them yours. You got off on a good start by cutting him off from your life, now stop dwelling on what he did, learn to love yourself and not let it happen again, as in, don’t give people the chance to treat you like shit, and move on with your life from here on out. You’re better than that.

Answer: Move on. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s pretty obvious that you’re dealing with a young, immature party girl: the opposite of marriage material. Her priority in life right now is to party and act stupid, not you, not marriage and not your relationship. She isn’t taking you seriously or putting you first and she isn’t ready for a real, committed relationship. While she’s out drinking, grinding on random dudes’ bajoings, and fist pumping, you’re sitting around in your room thinking about your wedding cake. Do you see how ridiculous that is? You sound young and naive and soon you will realize, either now or the hard way later, that marriage is the very least you should be thinking about, and that this girl is not even worth your time. There are so many nice, sweet, attentive, relationship-ready women out here looking for committed men to love them, and you guys stay breathing up the necks of obnoxious party chicks.

Answer: Stop it.

[Anonymous]

Do you think it was messed up that she disappeared that way and didn’t even say anything?

[Anonymous]

Ahahahahhaahahahaha so you go from I’m not interested in him to I really like him. Most guys who are good in the dating game have to do the opposite of what they want to do. First thing he did was date someone else while getting to know you which made him unavailable that made you start feeling some attraction for him. When you started hanging out he probably felt he was walking on thin ice since he’s well aware your out of his league looks wise so to gain power he has to become unpredictable. The best way to do that is to reject you which will only make you like him more because you hate being rejected especially by men who are lower in the looks category. He’s fairly skilled in the dating game don’t worry about what he’s doing or why eliminate him. Start dating other men and say I think it’s a great idea that we be friends theres just to many cute guys out there and I want my options open. Since you guys have class together he will take this time to try and win his power back but make it difficult for him. Let him try very hard to attract you back and give him just enough power back to keep him interested and not give up. He’s just very afraid of having a hot women in his life that he’s afraid he will mess it up you two need more bonding time so you can develop feelings where you actually care care about each other like a man would for his wife so you both can calm down and stop the games and perhaps get into a relationship. It’s about trust its going to take him a while to really trust you that you will stay with him since he knows he had to work to get you and losing your interest could be done easily. So just play your part of the game and if it’s ment to be it’ll work itself out.

[Anonymous]

Well in my case my ex did similar stuff contacted me or came to my parenting time but I found out through one of her friends she had cheated on me. I had pushed her so far ya she was moving on never to return and within a short time got into a new relationship. With your case she will do the same just remember who cares why she emailed you or this or that stick with the current facts she put a restraining order on you got you into trouble by helping you break it. You need to learn how to get over her although it will be hard mostly because you will have trouble finding another attractive girl as good as your ex. You will do it though if you put enough effort into it it will just take time and healing and make sure this new woman isn’t like the other you don’t need another restraining order on you it will impact your life to much which you don’t need. Learn to respect women and if something happens fights whatever just let it go. You can’t be worse off than me that had a 5 year relationship and 2 kids together and now I’m fighting a restraining order and custody battle its nightmare and I still havent found a new quality gf just dates. Just keep yourself busy and protect yourself we want it to be a happy ending for you. I know all you want to hear is she secretly wants you back but like I said everything she’s doing now proves she doesn’t give a heck about you in fact she enjoys being able to still manipulate you and be out there dating. You will never get what you want from her which is a happy relationship its already dead the damage has been done start fresh again I know it sucks but the sooner you start the better you need someone to care for you. So ignore her and stop trying to figure out every little thing which makes no difference of the outcome and get back out there in the dating world again best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Lol you pick at a particular segment of my post that you know nothing about. You read it with anger and a closed-minded mind in the 1st place, you already are trying to fight with me on account of being bitter from your own life, so you will read particular segments of my post that will sound better for your insults (yet you have no idea what you even picked seeing as how you have no idea about my situation period), naturally, and ignore the rest because it would make your insults worthless and nonsensical.

What’s really wrong, “notthinkinright”? Did you never have a partner to love you? Have you never had a relationship period? Everyone goes through breakups and such, but you never even had one to even have the chance to have a break up yet. Is this where your deep hate and anger comes from that you are projecting onto me?

Talk to April about it, I’m sure she will tell you how worthless and pathetic you are and maybe you can move on and live your life easier knowing this is certain.

[Anonymous]

Hahahaha, “loser”? Last time I heard that term being used I was in middle school, hahahahaha, dumbass.

Lol @ hateful, nasty and angry. You have no proof or basis for your childish, pathetic name-calling, only going by posts by other sad, lonely and bitter assholes such as yourself. You all call me angry (for no reason) and look at yourselves: you people are so angry, look at your behavior? Someone asks a simple question and engages in a conversation that isn’t your concern and you feel the need to chime in with so much anger and abuse, because you all are lonely and bitter, looking to take out your frustration on others, and bitch at strangers like me asking for advice.

You all are the evil, hateful, and nasty “bitches” here, not me. Look in the mirror at your behavior and the reason for it. You’re hypocrites, and this is grounds for me to report this site and the users. I suggest y’all stop verbally abusing and harassing me and go on about your business, you bitter “losers”.

[Anonymous]

Hahahaha I stopped calling HIM. You just proved you didn’t read or understand shit, just coming in here to start shit with strangers because you’re a pathetic, lonely tard bored with your life. Now everyone sees you’re just a lonely, bitter bitch reading what you want to believe opposed to what’s actually said to make yourself and your insults look good, and to also make you feel like your sad life and situation (IE why you’re on a self help forum) is less sad and pathetic than it really is. 🙁 You’re a dumbass fucking bitch and it isn’t bad enough that you can’t get anyone to look at you or give a fuck about you but you can’t read either.

Do your fingers curl in opposite directions? Do you drool and TAAaaaalkkk LIIEk DIIss?

Go jump off a bridge. Maybe the person you’re desperately wanting attention from will finally give a fuck about you…..hmmm…….

NAH you suck go to hell.

[Anonymous]

Wow, he called me a sick bitch. You’re so smart, you’re so witty and intelligent. Who taught you those words? So powerful, so riveting.

You’re the sick bitch, and you’re so damn stupid you assist in the disturbance of your precious forum by coming in here and bitching. You don’t know the meaning of sick or you wouldn’t even call me that, how irrelevant and ignorant. You’re a dumbass and a follower and you should go fuck yourself, since no one else wants to (EI why you’re on a self-help forum in the first place).

BITCH.

[Anonymous]

And no retardation issue with you.

[Anonymous]

Oh, and btw dumbass Dave, don’t reference any of my posts, INCLUDING my thread’s title. You obviously are too simple-minded to put two and two together by reading my post correctly and understanding it like a smart man is supposed to. You didn’t read crap correctly or understand it, so don’t even bother thinking you can reference any of my posts, bastard. Oh and now you wanna try and bitch to make everyone reading this thread think you’re some kinda big and bad man? You don’t impress or phase me. Make me leave then? I didn’t think so.

Shut the eff up and go about your dumb business, jerk.

[Anonymous]

Dale, shut the eff up. Can you hear the sound of my middle finger pointed downwards? Want me to turn it up? I don’t care what you or anyone else thinks of me. Don’t nobody care about you saying you’re sick of someone. You want a cookie now? You feel like you’re big and bad man now? Just because you say that I’m going to stay around even longer now. How about you make me leave, asshole, since you’re so big and bad? MAKE me.

[Anonymous]

YOU’RE the one being rude, and DON’T tell me where to post, I post where ever I want. And no, you didn’t give me advice, you gave me rude, insulting rants and now you won’t shut up. Quit telling me I’m angry. NOW you’re doing it to purposely be an asshole. Leave me alone and quit replying to me already.

[Anonymous]

Are you all gay?

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a huge manipulation. Basically, he’s spent the last 6 years treating you like second-rate trash and when you finally decide you are worth a little more than last night’s empty chinese takeout container, he tries to make you feel like something worse than garbage for your insensitivity.

The fact is, if you were important in his life, you would have been the person he called the minute he found out his father had the stroke, because if you were important to him, he’d have wanted to have your love and support to get him through the time. At the very least, he would have let you know that he would be MIA for a bit as a result of what was happening. That’s what adults who care about each other do.

It’s pretty obvious this guy doesn’t care for you one bit.

Who knows if his story is true or not, but either way, you did the right thing and I hope you aren’t packing your bags for the guilt trip he has tried to put you on. Walk away from this emotionally unavailable game player, and do yourself a favour… change your number/email/life and keep him out of it. Unless this guy is in his early 20’s or younger, he’s too old to be given any more chances for change and offering that just leaves the window open for the next time he’s lonely, but not looking for a mature and respectful relationship.

Move on and soon enough you’ll see how destructive this self-absorbed loser has been on your psyche. You’ll wonder why you were ever confused or stayed so long!

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