[Anonymous]

I spoke with her more about it and along with her best friend and we all three came to the conclusion that things like showing her breasts to other men (including her brother-in-law) was not cool. Yet…

Last night, while out having drinks with her and friends, she mentioned that while dropping her son off at her ex-husband’s house, he made the comment “Why don’t you show me your new boobs. It’s been a long time since I’ve seen them anyway.” Yes she showed them to her ex-husband. Everyone at the table looked really uncomfortable (my girlfriend was slightly intoxicated at the time, which probably contributed to the errant slip of the tongue.)

This came a day after we were watching a show called “Intervention” and in the episode an alcoholic mother would sleep in the same bed with her alcoholic 20-something son. In the program, one of the intervention specialists mentioned “You don’t find that odd sleeping in the same bed as your son?” He then went on to label it as something like “unacted upon incest” (that’s not the correct term but something close to that).

My girlfriend commented on her own, out loud that it was weird.

What I can’t understand is how it’s not weird to her to not keep her boobs in her shirt or show her ex-husband?

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

we broke it off. well he broke it off. so I guess never mind 😥

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the quick response. But how can one pursue if there is no response? I checked out the sample chapters that you have available on the internet; and it looks like the same information already available in many other books I have read. Regarding “The Game”, I find it odd that a relationship expert wouldn’t be aware of a NY Times #1 Bestseller about men pursuing women.

CGNM

[Anonymous]

Hey April,

Some things changed in the last couple of weeks, actually things changed the day after you responded to my last post. My ex emailed me and told me she had broken things off with the other guy and wanted to try to get back together with me! We ended up meeting xmas eve for lunch. Lunch was great, we talked and put everything out on the table and after lunch we kissed, i was shocked that things were starting to go my way. A couple hours later she texted me saying how she is happy that she is still attracted to me and that I kissed her and she even invited me over to see her and her son for on xmas day. Even though I was hesitant going over there because her family was going to be there she told me that she knew it was going to be akward but wanted me to come over anyways and to get the akward part of seeing her family again out of the way, so i went, it actually wasn’t akward at all. Today I wake up to a text message from her telling me that she is sorry but her heart isn’t in it and that she is still in love with the other guy. I wanted to say so much to her about how upset I was about this, mainly for the fact that I completly opened up to her and showed her all my emotions and because I got into arguements with family and friends about the possibility of the 2 of us getting back together. Instead I just told her goodbye and good luck. I just don’t understand how somebody can fall in love with somebody after only dating for 2 months and choose them over somebody you have been with for a year and had discussions about getting married and having kids and living together. I figured this guy was a rebound, I guess I was wrong.

[Anonymous]

Hello sweet heart
Thank you so much for ur reply back and all that u do for ur writers…I comfranted him about it last night after all the thinkin that I was doing all day it was killing me. He said that he was sorry if he had offended me and he said he just got cought in the moment and after he saw that I wasn’t comftable he stoped and he dosent want me to do nuttin I’m not comftable with… So I will see I don’t know I’m not ready to quite let him go yet….although I did buy ur book yesterday I can’t wait to get it but I forgot to write my apt nr on the adress so I hope I still get it 🙁….I greatly appriciate your help you are the best happy holydays muahh

[Anonymous]

Well I see your point April, thanks again

[Anonymous]

In this particular case do you think there is anything that I can do to make myself the prize again? I know I appeared too available but what can I do to negate this?

[Anonymous]

Well we’ve only been together a couple of weeks so I’m going to wait and see how my feelings mature. Plus, I’m only 20, he’s 23. I’m definitely not thinking about marriage anytime soon.

[Anonymous]

So you’re saying that it was wrong of me to ask for a date with not enough notice in advance or just too much conversation that soon after the date? It really seemed like this girl was interested, would it be worth trying to ask her out again and if so when? Thing is we share the same friends and I’m sure we will hang out again in a group setting. How should I act towards in this scenario???

Thanks April, and I’m pretty sure I will pick up a copy of your book. I could use the advice lol

[Anonymous]

well April thanks for the insight …however I am not clear about one thing. What do you mean by it is infatuation because I “don’t know him”??? does it mean that to be in love you should know everything about the guy..or “know the guy” as in what? could you enlighten me on this please…

[Anonymous]

Alright I will try that but do you think 10 days will be enough time to kindle a relationship before I have to leave to go back?

[Anonymous]

Thank you 🙂
We’ve been doing better in that department. It seems like it’ll be a pretty good relationship. I don’t know how long it will last. I don’t feel completely head over heels or think he’s “the one,” but it’s nice to have someone to have fun with and care about.

[Anonymous]

turns out I just decided to text her back to let me know when she is free and still after 15 plus hours no response….

Again, am I doing something wrong? (do I look too needy or desperate)

[Anonymous]

…also when ever i have a good day or bad day, when i get to experience something new, when i do something i remember him…I want to share all those things with him…I can’t wait to let him know how wonderful or bad my day was…

[Anonymous]

Actually she jus texted me back saying she’s staying tonight because of the blizzard were having lol. She didn’t suggest an alternative date.. should I ask her when’s good?

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