[Lidya]

Look, dating is not child’s play; it’s a high-stakes competition. She snapped a snap of a BMW M4? So you can say she’s declared ‘war’. She’s showing you that she has other ‘options’ and that someone is letting her drive her expensive car.

But look at the twist! The very next day, she leaves a gift at your door? Does that mean she wants to keep you as a ‘backup plan’ or is she checking your reaction? If you’re interested, don’t be afraid of the BMW guy. No matter what the car, you can be a better driver!

[Lidya]

Stop meeting every day and texting all the time. Let her think you are busy with your life. When you disappear, her Sagittarius nature will be triggered. Let him wonder where you went or if you are talking to someone else.
And Ask April was absolutely right that you are stuck in the friend zone. You should ask her out on a date. If she says yes, then fine. If she says no, then leave immediately so you don’t miss out on a girl who really wants to be with you.

[Lidya]

Flirting has been going on for four months, and in that time, people have renovated the entire house, yet you are still crying because of physical contact and hesitation.
listen dear. Offer him a date. If he still hesitates, then realize he’s just starving for attention. Leave him to his boring life and try to get yourself back to being a little ‘normal.
Because many people will be waiting for you, who want to make your world beautiful.
So don’t waste your time

[Lidya]

Introducing you to the family within two weeks and feeding you all those ‘unreal’ lines is a classic case of love bombing.
Believe me, there is no future with this man, and the love and support are in place, but this man is not stable. I will say this: you should move on. What home will a man who could not legally end a year-old marriage give you?

[Lidya]

The best way is to go back to the bus stop where you met her at the same time. This will feel natural and will also maintain your self-respect.
So my dear, don’t be a detective, be a hero. If you missed your chance, try again naturally; otherwise, wait for the next station.

[Lidya]

Hi!
Ask April
I hope you are doing well
you know that,
your forum is truly a ray of light for people stuck in difficult relationships. Your advice is always based on reality rather than emotion, which is very important in today’s world.
I read people’s posts on this forum daily and see how they are dealing with their problems. Your expert advice helps solve many of them and encourages people.

[Lidya]

I am so saddened to read your post. What happened to you was not a mistake; it was a crime. Going back to such a person is tantamount to putting your life and honor in further danger.
To get out of such a trauma, you really need professional counseling.
You did a great job sharing your problem here.

[Lidya]

Nick, you must have made a long list of soulmates, but if you are capable of becoming someone’s soulmate, then you have wasted the time of 50 girls. Soulmates don’t fall from the sky; they have to be built. You are shopping, not building a relationship.
I think you should delete your dating apps for the next six months and don’t talk to any girls. Your mind is fucked up. Unless you can be happy alone, you won’t be happy with anyone else. 50 dates is not a failure. That’s a warning sign that the problem isn’t with them, it’s with your vision.

[Lidya]

AskApril is right, you shouldn’t be flippant and just ask her directly if she’s single and would like to go on a date.
I think you should first contact him under a professional pretext and then see how friendly her response is.
You shouldn’t waste your time, but rather let her know as soon as possible that you are interested in her.

[Lidya]

You should consider yourself a “Grand prize” and make him feel that if he doesn’t make a decision soon, there is someone else standing in line who will appreciate you. There is no greater turn-on than confidence.

Love and attraction have their place, but self-respect should be at the top, as a person is not sure of you. He’s not even worth your time.
AskApril, is right that stop chasing him.
If he’s not 100 percent ready, why are you wasting your time? Give other men a break and give him space so he knows he can lose you.

[Lidya]

I pretty much agree with April that a guy is not giving mixed signals; he is giving clear signals. When someone says, “I don’t love you,” believe him. It’s not about the good times he tells you; good times are just a convenience
Do you think you will fix the boy or teach him how to love? This is a psychological trap. No matter how much you sacrifice for someone, you cannot generate their emotions.
So, my dear, don’t waste your time

[Lidya]

You think you love him, but actually, it’s trauma bonding. When someone gives you a lot of pain and then shows you a little love, our brain gets addicted to that little bit of love. This is not love, it’s infatuation.
And I really liked AskApril’s point here. She made it clear that someone who doesn’t respect you, not stand up to you, or yell at you doesn’t love you.
That boy will never change.
You have to stay away from him; in fact, you should block him. As long as he appears in your life, your wound will not heal, and you will be confused

[Lidya]

Two months is a very short time, accept this small loss and enjoy your university life. A boy who makes someone else sit on his lap in two months is not worthy of a long-term commitment.
April, I really like that you don’t sugarcoat it, your advice is direct and clear.
AskApril is right here. Consider that this relationship is over. It’s not your fault. ” Now, don’t waste your time. Instead, find a new boyfriend at the university.

[Lidya]

She is saying I don’t know if I can love you but at the same time, she is seeing other guys. This is a man-pollution technique where she keeps you on the right track so that, when she feels like it, she will come back; until then, she should enjoy her life. So, my dear, respect yourself.
Let’s be honest, you flirted on Tinder, but she slept with someone while high on drugs. It’s both their fault. But she’s playing the victim card so you can stay in the guilt and not question her rebound.
She is with someone else now and doesn’t want to be with you, and you shouldn’t wait for her.

[Lidya]

After 11 years of marriage, I think you want peace, not new drama. If that guy is afraid of cheating on his girlfriend, then he is either a very good person or a very cowardly person. In both cases, it can be difficult for you.
If he has clearly said that he wants to be with his girlfriend, respect that and stop chasing him.
AskApril was right, that you just got out of an 11-year marriage. Get out of the office and see the world. Instead of chasing someone who is already taken, you should try other people.

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