[leojax]

I was dating this girl and we had a stupid falling out and she kind of ended things. She apologized about a week later but then went silent on me for 4 days after I told everything was cool. After that we hadn’t talked in weeks. She was on snapchat and she was in this BMW and said, “When he finally lets you drive his M4”. The next day she reaches out me and said she left something by my front door. I wasn’t home and I said thanks and that my brother had just told me. I told her I was in Short Pump (the area she lives in) and she just said “ok cool”. I got back home and she left a card for me. She said she was hoping I was doing well and she heard I was moving so she got me a housewarming gift. It was my favorite movie and this TMNT place mat (gag gift). This was over a week ago and she hasn’t said anything else.

I’ll admit I still look at her snapchat fairly regularly I guess (at least one a week) but she never looks at mine.

I can’t help but wonder about that snap with her saying, “When he finally lets you drive his M4” the day before dropping of the card and housewarming gift. I don’t know…I just don’t think/know if she’s interested in me that way anymore…

1. Should I factor the snap into my choice of saying something to her or not
2. Is it weird that I still look at her snaps?
3. Is there a point in saying anything else besides the thank you I said before seeing the bag?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

1. Should I factor the snap into my choice of saying something to her or not

It depends what you want to say. Dating is competitive, and if you want to date her, you’ve got competition. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give it a try. Why not try and win her over?

2. Is it weird that I still look at her snaps?

No. It’s normal. People keep up with those they’re interested in. You’re not over her.

3. Is there a point in saying anything else besides the thank you I said before seeing the bag?

If you want to date her, then you have to give it a try. I don’t think it’s pointless because you’re in this holding pattern where you can’t move on because you don’t feel totally rejected and that there’s still a chance. And she may be keeping the door cracked open with the card she left on your doorstep. There’s only one way to know for sure, and that’s to invite her out on a date. If she says no, then you should move on. But if she says yes, forget the BMW guy — you’re in. No matter what car you’re driving! 🙂

[Lidya]

Look, dating is not child’s play; it’s a high-stakes competition. She snapped a snap of a BMW M4? So you can say she’s declared ‘war’. She’s showing you that she has other ‘options’ and that someone is letting her drive her expensive car.

But look at the twist! The very next day, she leaves a gift at your door? Does that mean she wants to keep you as a ‘backup plan’ or is she checking your reaction? If you’re interested, don’t be afraid of the BMW guy. No matter what the car, you can be a better driver!

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