[Mike]

You did the right thing by letting go of that relationship and focusing on yourself, especially since you already have new friends and a stable job. Just use your time to rebuild yourself instead of wasting it on someone who can lie to you and break your trust.

You will also find the right man for you, someone who will be content with you, will not cheat on you and will make you feel secure and loved sincerely. You deserve better. Just be patient and don’t lose hope.

[Mike]

It is not normal for him to reconnect with another woman who previously damaged your trust and was already a cause of conflict in your relationship. On top of that, he kept it from you and didn’t tell you that he had lunch with the woman he once tried to pursue, which had almost affected your relationship before. For me, hiding things is also a form of lying.

Maybe it is better to confront him again and let him know how you feel, that your trust in him is being affected, before their connection or closeness becomes even deeper. You also have the right to feel jealous or uncomfortable because you are his girlfriend and you found out that he is hiding things from you.

As your boyfriend, he should be able to give you peace of mind not allow things that make you overthink or feel bothered.

[Mike]

If your gut feeling is already very strong that your partner is doing something wrong, it might be true but it’s still better to have enough evidence before confronting them. If what you really want is peace of mind, you may also consider breaking up with her because a relationship without trust can no longer be contented and happy.

You will just end up arguing repeatedly and doubting each other, especially since your suspicion is already strong and you even have some solid basis that further supports what you feel may be happening between your partner and their boss.

Step back and have a peaceful life without regret.

[Mike]

You’re not wrong for expecting effort from your partner on your birthday. Maybe there’s just something missing in the communication between the two of you. Some men, like me for example, not very expressive or naturally thoughtful in that way but if you directly tell him what you want for your birthday and he still doesn’t do it, then there really is a problem on his side.

Your birthday is special because it only comes once a year, so it feels good when your loved one remembers and makes an effort to celebrate it with you.

Try talking to him calmly especially about his habits like drinking and smoking. He might even be smoking inside the house without realizing it affects your children, which is not good for their health.

It’s also not right that he keeps ignoring your request for family pictures. The best solution here is really to have a serious and honest conversation with him and express all your feelings and frustrations. Then try everything you can to save the relationship, especially for the sake of your children.

[Mike]

His return will depend on what he discover about himself while you’re not in his life. He might miss you and start looking for your presence, realizing that something feels missing when you’re not around. Or he might feel happier with the freedom and come to understand that he doesn’t really see a future with you in the long term.

For now, just give him the space he asked for. At the same time, focus on yourself too, value yourself and find other things that make you happy so you’re not always thinking about him.

It might just be a character-development phase in your life.

[Mike]

Based on your first story there was a bit of a red flag in the part where he didn’t reply to your texts or Facebook messages for a long time and didn’t reach out to you. But in the second part, he did explain himself and with the nature of his job that can sometimes really happen, no signal in certain places or being extremely busy.

For me, you will be able to feel it yourself based on his actions and the way he talks, whether he is truly sincere with you or not. For now, don’t get too attached to him yet while you are not sure if he is serious about you or if you’re just something to pass the time for him.

Just go with the flow for now with whatever you have between you two and when he is away, try to keep yourself busy with other things so you don’t overthink about him.

[Mike]

He’s probably not ready to become a father and he may not even be fit to be one because he should be thinking about your well-being. From what I understand, when a pregnant woman is stressed it can also affect the baby in the womb and may impact both the mother’s and baby’s health.

It seems like he’s not yet ready for the responsibility of having a child so if I were you, if you are able to, you might want to leave him and walk away for the sake of your child and your mental health. Don’t stay if you already know you’re being cheated on.

A pregnant woman should be cared for not made to feel bad or stressed like what he is doing. You deserve peace of mind especially in your condition.

You might also have family or friends who can understand you, so don’t be afraid to share your situation. Don’t let yourself be treated poorly by a man especially while you are pregnant.

[Mike]

I think she wants you to come back to her or get close to her again because she got used to having you there for her but she’s also playing with you and messing with your mind. She is not willing to change for you. she just wants to do whatever she feels like for herself.

She doesn’t care if you get hurt by the things she says, what she wants is your attention and to see if you still have feelings for her.

If I were you, I would distance myself from her completely. She won’t bring anything good into your life, only damage to your mental health. Yes, it’s right to change your number and cut off all communication you have with her.

Show her clearly that you don’t want her back in your life anymore, whether as a friend or as a partner.

[Mike]

Since you are the guy, you should make the first move. Invite her to eat out or watch a movie and you should be the one to pay. If she agrees, there’s a strong chance she likes you too. You will naturally feel it based on how she acts and whether she also shows interest in you.

When it comes to texting, she might just be waiting for you to message first because you’re the guy and some girls feel shy or hesitate to be too forward. So it’s normal that you’re the one starting conversations as long as she still replies and keeps talking to you.

Focus on making her happy first and letting her feel that she enjoys being with you or talking to you. After that, you can ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend.

[Mike]

Since she is shy, she might feel embarrassed to show if she really likes you. It would be good if you make the first move and find a way to get closer to each other. You can also invite her to have a snack or grab coffee then start a light and fun conversation. After that, observe if she seems happy and comfortable being with you.

If she agrees to go out with you for snacks or coffee, I think there’s a chance she might also like you, so you may have a good opportunity if you decide to court her.

[Member]

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