[Anna Shanelle]

Well, since you know you were wrong, you don’t really have the right to demand anything from her right now. The only thing you can do is try to win her back and ask for her forgiveness. Show her that you’re not that kind of person and that you simply made a mistake.
Also, you got drunk, so next time don’t drink too much to the point where you lose control of what you’re doing.
So yes, just keep trying to win her over and court her if you have to, even every day if needed, until she forgives you. Right now she just needs time to cool off and calm down.

[Anna Shanelle]

Just talk to her and tell her your concerns so she can also understand your side. Don’t start keeping score of who does what, instead, you should help each other.
It can also be hard when someone is away from their family, so maybe there are things she feels she’s missing that you’re not able to give, which could explain the change in her behavior. That’s why it’s important for you both to have a proper, honest conversation and really listen to each other’s concerns.

[Anna Shanelle]

It seems like he wants to be the only one who gets to decide in your relationship, and that does sound quite controlling. To be honest, that’s not healthy in a relationship.
If you want things to go back to how they were, you both would need to bring back the behavior you had before, it’s really that simple. But change is always part of life, and it just depends on how quickly a person can adjust and adapt.

But I’m not saying you should be the only one adjusting to him. What I mean is that both of you need to adjust to each other, it has to be give and take. In other words, you should always meet each other halfway.

[Anna Shanelle]

Well, there’s really no right or wrong here. It depends on what you want. Honestly, being direct can also be a good thing so you immediately know the answer and don’t waste both of your time.
It still depends on your preference. If your question is whether you’re wrong or not, my answer is no, you’re not wrong. It’s your decision.

[Anna Shanelle]

You’re wrong in a way because you’re a man and she is a woman, you should have just left her instead of hurting and humiliating her. But at the same time, I can’t fully blame you because you were hurt.

[Anna Shanelle]

In my opinion, he seems very controlling. Is it really right that he’s even trying to stop you from talking to your own mother? She’s your parent. Instead of trying to build a good relationship with your family, it feels like he’s actually pushing you away from them.
For me, the relationship you have with him doesn’t seem healthy. Maybe you need to step back a bit and give yourself time to think about what’s really best for you. I know you love him and this is hard, but try to also think long-term, you need improvement in the situation.
Also, you’re still young and you will meet a lot of other people.

[Anna Shanelle]

Maybe she’s just being friendly and doesn’t know how to directly reject you. In any case, there’s really no good outcome here since she is married.
It would be better if you try to stop your feelings for her. This situation can become complicated and cause problems, especially if her husband finds out. Also, think about the possibility that you could end up hurting or breaking a family.

[Anna Shanelle]

The answer to your question is actually simple, you just need to try and not be afraid of the outcome. You have to be ready in case you get rejected by a woman.
Also, like you said, you’re a good person, so what you really need is to be brave and not be afraid to try, no matter what the result may be. If you don’t try now, you might regret it later. We’re not getting any younger, so don’t waste your time.
But at the same time, don’t pressure yourself too much, just stay relaxed.

[Anna Shanelle]

Maybe you both like each other, but that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s interested in a deeper relationship. And just because you like each other doesn’t mean you’re compatible.
My advice is to keep your connection with him and see what happens, while also staying open to dating other people since there’s no commitment between you yet. That way, you won’t get stuck in something uncertain.
Also, long-distance relationships aren’t for everyone, only a few really work out. You can take the chance, but don’t give it your all just yet.

[Anna Shanelle]

Honestly, change is a normal part of life. What matters is how you adjust and what you choose to prioritize. Maybe he just misses his friends and family, and that’s why he’s been acting that way.

You just need to talk things through and set boundaries. Since you’re planning to get married, you should already be one of his main priorities, but that doesn’t mean controlling him or stopping him from seeing his family and friends. It’s about finding a balance.

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