[Kevin]

Yes, it’s better that you move on because she is not serious about you. It seems like she only sees you as a pastime or something to pass the time because if she truly loved you, she wouldn’t keep giving you false hope and then suddenly leave.

Maybe she likes someone else or even has another boyfriend, which is why there are times she blocks you so you can’t message her and so her boyfriend won’t find out.

Just wait for someone else to come into your life who will truly value you, someone who won’t disappear easily and won’t only show up when they feel like seeing you again.

Don’t waste your time on someone who is unsure about their feelings for you.

[Kevin]

What you are doing is wrong because you are both deceiving his current girlfriend. But I won’t judge you for that part because there are really people who go through situations like this, especially when it comes to love, sometimes people no longer think about what is right or wrong as long as they feel happy.

I think it would be better if you just wait until summer and let him officially break up with his girlfriend. Yes, the girl will get hurt but that is still better than continuing to secretly deceive her.

Try to endure missing him for now while he is still not fully single and officially out of his current relationship.
Good luck!

[Kevin]

You don’t want to hurt the first one, so you’re just going to let him keep hurting you instead?

You already said he is abusive, yet you’re still more worried about not hurting him?

There’s already a man who treats you well but you’re still focusing on the one who cheated on you and hurt you?

Wake up, girl. Start thinking clearly before it’s too late. Respect yourself in a way that the first man was never able to give you.

[Kevin]

Maybe she got back together with her boyfriend, which is why she suddenly stopped texting and meeting up with you.

You can try reaching out to her one more time, send a text or give her a call, so you can get some clarity on why she disappeared. Maybe she’ll be able to explain her side.

But if she still doesn’t reply or make any effort to contact you, it’s better to let her go rather than stay stuck waiting for her.

Keep yourself busy and focus on other things. In time, you’ll notice you’re not thinking about her anymore.

[Kevin]

Your ex is toxic and you should never go back to him because he will just keep doing the same things to you over and over again. The fact that he cheats and has physically hurt you is already more than enough reason to leave him and remove him from your life.

Respect yourself. If you truly love yourself, you won’t go back to him, because he clearly has no respect for you and men like that rarely change.

Don’t settle for less. You deserve someone who will treat you the right way.

[Kevin]

When he said, “sorry feel like being alone right now,” it could mean that he’s not sure about his feelings for you. He might not be certain if he wants to be with you, because if he truly loved you, he would miss you and be excited for the weekend, that’s the time you’re supposed to see each other.

It seems like he doesn’t love you that deeply, because the excitement to see and be with you is fading. On top of that, he’s become cold, even in his texts, he can’t respond to you properly.

If he continues acting this way, it may be better for you to step back, stop reaching out and cut off the connection so you won’t keep hurting yourself wondering why he treats you like that.

Be patient, someone right for you will come along, someone who will make you feel valued not just at the beginning, but in a consistent and lasting way.

[Kevin]

You’re wrong when you said “nobody ever falls in love with a teacher.” That’s not true, in fact, I’ve met many students who also developed feelings for their teachers, especially if the teacher is kind or someone they find attractive.
Yes, it is wrong to have feelings like that, not because of the age gap but because of the professional boundary. He is your teacher and it is not allowed for teachers to have romantic relationships with their students.
If you truly like him, maybe the best thing you can do is wait until you are of legal age and until he is no longer your teacher. Then, if you ever meet again in a proper situation outside of school, you can express your feelings in a respectful way but don’t say it directly to him because it would be very awkward, especially since you were once his student.
Good luck with your future.

[Kevin]

While I was reading your story, I can’t help but think, maybe he has a wife or another family?

It’s quite suspicious that he only gives you his work phone number and not his personal one. And why does he only make time for you so rarely? No matter how busy someone is with work, if they truly love you and you matter to them, they will find ways to see you and spend time with you because they will miss you.

But in his case, it seems like he is already content with only seeing you once in a while and then there is no communication again afterward. Doesn’t that feel a bit strange? It also feels like you don’t really know his full background or situation.

It’s not right that you’re just accepting being contacted and seen only when he feels like it. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve.

Honestly, he doesn’t seem serious about you if that kind of setup continues.

[Kevin]

At first, it seems like he started seeing you as a sister maybe because his feelings for you faded and he had someone else he liked. So he treated you more like a sibling, which I know felt wrong for you because for you, he was never just a “brother” figure, you still see him as an ex-lover who still has a place in your heart.

Now, it seems like he’s the one who wants to get back together and is saying you should forget the whole “sibling act” (which was actually something he initiated in the first place).
If you still have feelings for him, then you can consider accepting his offer to try again if that’s what will make you happy. Why not, right? Take the chance to be together again but make sure that this time, you both do your best to make the relationship work.

[Kevin]

It’s a bit of a complicated situation but I believe there is a proper setup that can work for something like this. You both need to talk properly about what arrangement would truly be best for the children’s well-being.

When children are involved, it’s no longer just about whether you are happy or not, what matters most is that the children are in a stable and healthy environment.

Maybe he still loves you, which is why even though he feels something is missing or he’s not fully happy, he still hasn’t left your home. Always remember that communication is the key to solving any problem or misunderstanding.

As for the part where you feel uncomfortable with his ex’s involvement, like she seems to still act like a stepmother to his children, it’s important that you also tell your partner how you feel. Let him know that you are not comfortable with that kind of setup, especially with people coming in and out of your home freely, as it can feel like a lack of respect for you as his current partner.

Whatever decision you make, always consider what is best for the children.

[Member]

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