[Zayden Cross]

That “energy” that disappeared? It wasn’t energy; it was actually the guy’s “hunt.” The moment he realized the prize wasn’t going to be easy to get, he switched into “battery saving mode.”
Anyway, this guy is not Mr. Difficult to Read, he is just Mr. Low Interest. A man who really likes you, after hearing your trauma, holds you tighter and does not back down.
Such a guy should not be shown “waiting”, but a straight “exit”. 3 months is enough to understand that he was not interested in your heart, but only in Sex.

[Zayden Cross]

This girl is giving you just enough attention to keep you on the hook. Whenever you pull away, she reels you back in. “It’s complicated” often means that she’s not completely over her ex or some old issue, but she’s getting an “ego boost” from your attention. I think she used the word “friends” so that she could enjoy your time and attention without any commitment.
If the next time she asks for coffee, sometimes say, “No, I’m busy.” Make her feel that your time is valuable and that you’re not just her waiter who shows up at her beck and call.
I agree with AskApril about what’s the rush? A “slow burn” is better in office romance. Doml needs to stop chasing and let the girl do some of the work!

[Zayden Cross]

When he didn’t have the money, he had an excuse; now that he has the money, ‘sleep’ is the excuse. The truth is, he’s getting anxious about what life will be like after marriage in the US. He just wants to be an “online boyfriend” because living together in real life is expensive and difficult.
You should put this internet engagement aside and tell him clearly: “I am not a Netflix subscription that you can log in to whenever you want and sleep whenever you want.” If the visa process does not start in the next month, you should update your profile and find someone in the real world who can sit in front of you instead of a screen.
AskApril is absolutely right that the guy’s behavior is clearly showing that he is no longer taking marriage or this relationship seriously. Meeting only 2 times in 28 months is not enough for a marriage. It is better to start dating locally so that there is no financial pressure and you can really get to know a person closely.

[Zayden Cross]

When a girl says “I don’t want to celebrate my birthday” after 3 years of a relationship, but then the same guy is there, whom she met during the “break”. Then brother, something isn’t just fishy—the whole thing stinks!
You are looking for logic, but there is no logic here; it is a game of chemistry. That girl wants to taste the “single life” without breaking up. AskApril got it right that Thomas wants to be right, and the girlfriend wants to be free.
I think if your values ​​don’t match and you just want to prove “I am right”, then maybe it’s better to move on because you will be a stress to each other.

[Zayden Cross]

You feel like you are the heroine of a romantic movie who is chasing her love, but in reality, the guy is just thinking of you as a “side quest”.
AskApril is right that when a man wants someone, he will move mountains to find a way. A text is a very small thing for him. You should put your phone aside now and bring back that “mystery” that was your identity. Remember, as long as you run after him, the guy will never come back to you. People stop valuing what is easily available. Recognize your worth.

[Zayden Cross]

Saying “I’ll never wash this pencil” and “Babygirl” are old-fashioned flirting tactics. The guy is trying to show some Main Character Energy. He wants you to think about him, and he’s succeeded!
When you asked him to hold his hand, and he made up an excuse, he got an Ego Stroke. He knew you liked him, so he started to be a little cool.
Now you should play a little “Push and Pull”. When he stops by after class or glances away, ignore him. Have fun with your friend and show him that your life is just as fun without his “sweaty hands” or “pencil”.
I really like Ask April’s advice that you don’t have to ask for his number. Just keep it to “Let him chase you” for now. They believe that men are more valuable when they work hard to win a girl over.

[Zayden Cross]

36 years is not old enough to give your whole life to a “boring and cold” man just for another child. Raising a child is not easy, and when the father is not supportive (emotionally), a person breaks down from the inside.
You’re saying that because you bought the ring, but you haven’t put it on his finger yet, it doesn’t count as a proposal. Dear, when you don’t even like the guy, whether the ring is gold or diamond—what difference does it even make?
Decisions taken in desperation always lead to depression. You don’t need a child; you need some peace and a good partner
It is good to have two children instead of one, but it is much more important for these children to have a peaceful and happy home. Raising a child with a father who is not emotionally present would be unfair to that child as well.
Ask April’s advice is very valuable, that focus on the blessing (6-year-old son) that they already have. When a person starts appreciating his current happiness, he is less bothered by the feeling of lack, and they does not make wrong decisions in haste.
Such people may be fine just to fill the gap in life, but they are not capable of becoming the foundation of life.
Ask April, you are absolutely right in saying that marriage or a child cannot change someone’s basic nature. If he is “controlling” now, then tomorrow he will impose his will on the upbringing of the children as well, which will make life more unbearable. In such a situation, “Slow Down” is the wisest decision.

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