[Maria Janine]

There’s nothing wrong with your belief. That’s also your choice, so only you can say whether what you’ll do is right or wrong.

[Maria Janine]

It’s good to try to understand where he’s coming from. What I mean is, there might be a reason behind why he’s being so jealous. It would be better if you talk to him seriously about it. It’s important that both of you are open about the problems you see in your relationship, especially if it could affect or destroy it.

Maybe he was cheated on before, which is why she’s acting that way. So just make him understand that you’re not that kind of person—he’s different, and you’re different. So he shouldn’t have anything to worry about.

[Maria Janine]

You’ve only been talking for 2 weeks—you might be overthinking things too fast.

You’re still just getting to know each other. If he doesn’t even ask you out on dates, that usually means he doesn’t have romantic interest in you.

Don’t chase him too much, because if he really likes you, he’s the one who will pursue you. That’s how you’ll know if he’s serious, just playing around, or what his real intentions are.

[Maria Janine]

If he’s not ready yet, you can’t control that—he’s the one who has control over it. So my advice is to look at other options too. You can also consider meeting or talking to other people if, until now, he still isn’t ready for you. But you can still keep communicating with him.
It’s difficult if you get stuck just waiting for him to be ready. What if before that even happens, he ends up falling for someone else? Then you lose.

[Maria Janine]

In the world we live in, nothing is certain. Everything can change or shift—it’s up to you how you accept it, face it, and how you adjust.
If there were a way to know who you’ll be with for a lifetime, then no relationships would ever end or break up.

[Maria Janine]

If you want an honest answer, it’s better to ask her directly. But for me, it’s better if you just act natural and don’t seem desperate just to get her to like you.

[Maria Janine]

When you like someone—especially if you’re a man—you really need to invest and take a risk.

What I mean is, it’s normal to be kind and attentive when you like someone. But whether you end up in the “friendzone” or not is no longer something you control. It’s not even something we can advise you out of—it’s actually the girl herself who decides that.

[Maria Janine]

I think she really doesn’t want to get back with you anymore, especially since you’re not financially stable. It seems like she’s just being practical and thinking about her future.
My advice is to work on yourself right now—financially, and of course your personal growth as well. Keep doing your small improvements so you can become the best version of yourself.
I also think you’re not really compatible anymore, especially since you’ve already broken up several times. It would be better if you look for someone else so you don’t keep getting stressed like this.
Just move on. Sometimes that’s really what you need—letting go so the heaviness you’re feeling becomes lighter.

[Maria Janine]

If you want a direct and honest answer, you need to ask him what you really are. You’ve been dating for over a year, yet there’s still no clear label. You deserve to know where you stand because it’s difficult if you’re the only one who’s sure while he isn’t, especially when you’ve already invested so much time and emotion.

My concern is that all your effort might go to waste if things aren’t clearly defined. Try to talk to him calmly and respectfully. Let him know that you’re not rushing anything—you just want clarity about your relationship.

It’s possible that you might be assuming you both feel the same way, when in reality he may only see you as a friend. Maybe the way he treats you feels romantic to you, but it could be misunderstood. That’s why it’s important to have an open and honest conversation so you don’t end up confused or hurt later on.

[Maria Janine]

Maybe just limit what you respond to. You can simply ignore topics that you’re not comfortable with anymore.

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