[Brian]

Let him be and stop lending him money so he can learn to save for himself and have something to use when he needs it. You’re right—you’re not his bank and you’re not his mother. If you keep always understanding him, he will never learn.
If his behavior doesn’t change and the spark is completely gone, just leave him. You won’t gain anything from a guy like that. Imagine if you get married and have a child—expenses will be even bigger. You might end up the one with all the problems.

[Brian]

You should be the one finding a way for your parents to like your girlfriend. God, what kind of man are you? And you’re so nosy too—you tell them everything. Of course, if you keep telling your side of the story, it will always sound one-sided. That’s not what a man does.
A man always tries to solve problems on his own. Also, you’ve already graduated—go find a job so you’re not always dependent on your parents. You’re a grown man, yet even your family is the one dealing with your girlfriend issues. What are you, a gossip girl?

[Brian]

First of all, do you even have a choice? I mean, can you leave and live without your boyfriend’s support? If you can, then why not—especially if you’re no longer happy with him. Your stress might even affect your pregnancy.
If you’re able to leave him and you have somewhere to go, then just break up with him and fight for the legal support he should give for your child.

[Brian]

She has gotten used to you picking her up, which is also a good thing to do, especially since she is your wife and sometimes it goes late at night for safety reasons.
If you can do it, why not, right? She is your fiancée and not just any woman, so to avoid arguments about this, maybe you should invest in a car again since it seems convenient for both of you.
Or you could look for a place to live that is closer to her work so it won’t be difficult for you to pick her up.

[Brian]

You need to understand things more deeply. Most women are really like that—kind of dramatic and sensitive—but for men, being very sensitive isn’t normal, just my opinion.
But maybe you’re also being too insensitive and too blunt without realizing that what you’re saying is already hurtful or offensive to her. You should also observe your own behavior.

[Brian]

You threatened to leave him, and then you begged him to stay. After that, in an instant, he’s the one making threats now—saying he doesn’t want to talk about it or even hear about it if you still want to fix the relationship.

Now he’s the one demanding things, even though he’s the one who did wrong. You should go through with leaving him so he realizes his mistake, instead of letting him be the one who messed up but still has the power to make demands.

[Brian]

I can’t really tell what that woman actually wants in her life. She’s already older and has three children, but I don’t see any clear direction toward a stable and better life for herself and her kids.
If I were you, I would just let her be for now and focus on yourself and your children. You also have kids, and you need to focus on them too. Once she figures out what she really wants in life, then you can consider going back to her.
Instead of all the drama, it would be better for her to fix her life and take care of her children—and the same goes for you.

[Brian]

If you like her, stop flirting with the three other girls and ask her out on an official date. Don’t make it complicated—the answer is actually simple.

[Brian]

First of all, you are already at the right age to make your own decisions, and you are no longer dependent on your parents to survive.
Second, you are the one who will be living with your partner, not your parents.
Third, you need to stand by your decision if you truly love your boyfriend. Also, if your boyfriend is a good and decent person, you shouldn’t be afraid that your parents won’t accept him.

[Brian]

Because men usually prefer being the ones who are doing the chasing. It removes the challenge for them, and they tend to lose interest when the woman is the one pushing or pursuing them.
And most of the time, when it’s like that, men don’t become serious—or they end up taking advantage of it when they realize the woman likes them too much.

[Member]

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