[Amanda]

As long as he is not cheating, I think you really don’t have anything to worry about. Just don’t overthink it for your own peace of mind as well.

[Amanda]

If you don’t want to give up, then don’t stop—it’s that simple. Just keep building your connection with her, flirt with her, and show her that you still really like her. Because if you truly don’t want to give up, you’ll do everything you can even if it’s hard, even if the outcome isn’t certain—you take the risk.

[Amanda]

I don’t think it’s that he’s “okay” with it. I think you’re just being too dramatic. He probably just doesn’t have a choice, and maybe he also doesn’t want to be negative about the situation. Don’t overthink it—you’re being paranoid. Honestly, you’re being shallow about it.

[Amanda]

Good luck on your journey, and I hope you succeed!

[Amanda]

Leave him. You’re already acting like his mother, and yet you’re still tolerating it. With a guy like that—lazy and not even financially stable—what kind of future can you have together?

Love alone isn’t enough. He also needs to be responsible. And sometimes he even has the nerve to get angry at you, even though you’re the one doing everything.

Let him go so he can learn. If he leaves you, it only means he didn’t truly love you—because real love isn’t just about accepting support and getting what he wants from you.

Right now, it’s like you’re the one teaching him to stay lazy by continuing to carry him.

[Amanda]

You said your love for each other is unconditional, so just hold on and keep fighting. Problems are meant to be solved, not immediately given up on. He probably won’t be stressed at work for his whole life, right? If that’s the case, he could always look for another job. It feels like such a shallow reason to break up—unless he’s only using that as an excuse to really leave you.

[Amanda]

I don’t think his behavior has anything to do with breaking up or anything like that. Maybe because you’re his first relationship, he’s just processing and trying to understand why some people can do such abusive things. He might still be taking it in, which is why his behavior suddenly changed. But…

[Amanda]

Try to let him chase you a bit. If he asks why your behavior seems different, tell him you honestly don’t know what you two are. You’re confused by his behavior—he wants to text all the time, he doesn’t want you talking to anyone else, but there’s no real commitment between you. He doesn’t even take you on proper dates; it’s always just at his place. That’s what’s making you feel unsure about where you stand.

[Amanda]

It’s normal for couples to have those kinds of problems. Honestly, those challenges are supposed to make your relationship stronger if you both choose to have a positive mindset.

Because from mistakes, we’re supposed to learn—so we can become better people, right?

Breaking up shouldn’t be the immediate solution because it doesn’t really address the problem. It would be better if you both sat down and talked calmly about the issues you’re facing, as well as the behaviors that aren’t good for the relationship.

If you already know something is wrong, try not to repeat it—like you mentioned getting angry over small things. If you know it’s just a small issue, it’s better not to make it bigger.

[Amanda]

The first thing you should do is not pressure yourself too much about getting a girlfriend, because the more pressure you put on yourself, the harder it becomes to act naturally and make the right moves.

Just relax for now. Don’t be too aggressive or desperate. Keep trying, but in a calm way.

To meet more people, you can try dating apps and choose ones that are near your area. You can also go to the gym—you can meet a lot of people there too. There are still many ways to meet others; the world isn’t running out of women. Just be patient.

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