[Gio Manuel]

Maybe you should try switching roles and perspectives so you can better understand each other. What I mean is, try to experience his beliefs, culture, and way of thinking, and he should do the same for you. That way, you’ll both see where each of you is really coming from.

[Gio Manuel]

Maybe you just don’t like your in-laws? That’s just how it is—she is their child. There are really parents like that; they’ve been with their child for a long time, from childhood until adulthood. Just try to understand it. They’re already old, and maybe they just don’t want to lose their child’s presence and have less time with her, especially if you end up having your own house.

[Gio Manuel]

It’s better that you’re sure about the father before you plan to have a child, because children, as they grow up, want to have a complete family. It wouldn’t be fair to take that away from your child. If you think your life with him will be miserable, don’t go through with it anymore—you might end up dragging your future child into it too.

Because you said he can be cold, controlling, moody, and other behaviors like that aren’t good. So before you decide to have a child, make sure first if he is really the one you want to be with.

[Gio Manuel]

Just court her—step out of being just her friend and start flirting if needed. Don’t be afraid to ask her out; it’s actually good if she really sees what your intentions are with her. Nothing will happen if you don’t do anything. You’ll stay in the friend zone forever if you don’t take a risk.

Don’t think too much about the outcome—the important thing is that you tried, so you won’t have regrets.

[Gio Manuel]

If your way of deciding is giving yourself two weeks to be sure, then go ahead and do that. It’s only two weeks—it’s not like he will automatically end up with someone else in that time. And if that does happen, then he probably wasn’t really meant for you anyway. You’ll also realize that if he gives up that quickly, it means he didn’t like you that much in the first place, right?

So yes, if two weeks is enough for you to decide, then so be it. At least you’ll be sure of your decision. These things aren’t something you decide quickly anyway—honestly, two weeks is actually quite short. Some people take months to figure it out.

[Gio Manuel]

Get her attention—make yourself noticeable and show that you like her. Court her, give her gifts, etc. Ask her out. Don’t say “I love you” right away; you’re moving too fast. Put in effort first so she can see that you’re really determined and serious about her.

[Gio Manuel]

Give him more time, and it would be good for him to know your opinion or perspective on this matter. Maybe his relationship with his family isn’t as good as yours, which is why he said that your families are different.

If there is an issue, I don’t think he is hiding it—maybe there are just things he isn’t able to tell you right now because of his current situation. Just let him feel that whatever it is, as long as it doesn’t affect or ruin your relationship, you are willing to adjust for him. And it should be the same for him too—it’s basically just give and take.

[Gio Manuel]

If he’s trying to get your attention, it’s clear that he likes you. Maybe only now is he realizing that he actually likes you, and only now is he starting to appreciate your beauty, your presence, your behavior, etc. Maybe he doesn’t see those things in his girlfriend, the one he says he loves.

[Gio Manuel]

First of all, if he doesn’t love you, what’s the point of being in a relationship? For me, you should have ended it from the start—even if it’s painful or difficult—rather than staying with someone you know doesn’t truly love you and isn’t ready for you. Especially when you feel the complete opposite of how he feels, that’s unfair to you. That’s why you should break up with him.

[Gio Manuel]

Just tell her that you like her and ask if you can take her out. Let her know you’ve felt this way for a long time, and that you’re only gathering the courage to say it now. Don’t overthink too much about whatever the outcome might be so that fear doesn’t hold you back. Do it now while you still can, while she’s available, because you might end up overthinking things and someone else could get ahead of you while you’re stuck worrying about what might happen.

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