[Yuan D]

I think he’s genuinely interested in you. If you like him too, why not give him some subtle signs that you’re interested as well? Maybe that will give him the confidence to finally admit his feelings for you and ask you out on a date.

[Yuan D]

Well, if you’re capable of supporting yourself and making your own decisions, you can choose to do that. However, I think it would be better if you explained to your parents where you’re coming from so they can understand your perspective. At the end of the day, they’re still your family.

[Yuan D]

You should just talk things through. Most problems can be worked out through good communication. What you both want should be mutual; it shouldn’t be a situation where you agree to something only because you feel pressured to. It’s better to be open with him about what you want and how you feel. It would also help if you offered some suggestions so the two of you can meet halfway and find a compromise that works for both of you.

[Yuan D]

It does sound confusing. Maybe everything that happened with his father has left him unsure about his priorities right now. I think it might be best to give him some space for the time being and allow him some time to reflect and figure things out.

[Yuan D]

That was a great article. I really enjoyed reading it.

[Yuan D]

Was there no option for him to bring you along? Actually, both of you have valid points. If your relationship is generally okay, then you probably don’t have much to worry about. You can’t watch your boyfriend every moment of the day anyway.

If he chooses to do something wrong, that would be his decision, and there isn’t much you can do to stop someone who wants to make that choice. At the same time, I don’t blame you for feeling the way you do. It’s understandable to be afraid that your boyfriend might do something inappropriate.

For now, the best option is probably to let him go out and try to trust him. Trust is an important part of any relationship, and ultimately, his actions will show whether he deserves that trust or not.

[Yuan D]

The answer is actually pretty simple. Just tell him directly what you want. If you need reassurance and commitment so you can stop overthinking and feel secure about making such a huge change, then be honest about it.

You’re in a relationship, so it’s perfectly normal to talk about these things. You’re not being pushy—these conversations are important and benefit both of you. Clear expectations and open communication are essential, especially when you’re talking about uprooting your life and moving across the country with your child.

[Yuan D]

If we’re talking about what is right, I think you should warn the woman because I truly feel sorry for her. Not only does this man no longer love her, but he’s also sleeping with other people. She could even end up getting sick, and on top of that, he has no intention of giving her the children she wants.

Her time and future could be wasted. Instead of being happy, she has no idea that she’s being deceived by this closeted gay man. If you don’t feel capable of doing it yourself, then let the people who are willing to tell her do it.

You said it yourself—you have sisters, a mother, cousins, and other women you care about, and you wouldn’t want something like this to happen to them. So I think you should do what you believe is right.

[Yuan D]

That is probably the reason. Most likely, your question to her best friend got back to the girl you like.

I think you should just talk to her in person and ask her directly if this change in her behavior has something to do with what you asked her friend. Simply apologize and let her know that you’re okay with being just friends and that you hope nothing has to change between the two of you.

Things may feel a bit awkward right now, but that doesn’t mean your friendship is ruined. With time and understanding, things can return to normal.

[Yuan D]

She’s not interested in you romantically. She’s probably just being friendly. It’s already clear, even from what you’ve said yourself, that she prefers talking to your roommate more than to you.

Maybe she enjoys talking to your roommate more because she has more fun with him and feels more relaxed around him. You mentioned that you tend to be serious and often get jealous, even though the two of you aren’t actually in a relationship.

Honestly, I’m even surprised that she hasn’t started avoiding you yet. To be honest, you’re being a bit too persistent. You two aren’t together, but sometimes you act as if you are.

If I were you, I would start moving on and stop bothering her. Giving her space is probably the best thing you can do right now. Who knows, she might even change her mind someday if you stop pressuring her, but you shouldn’t count on that. Focus on yourself and move forward instead.

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