My fiance and I have been together, what will be 4 years this June. We got engaged last February. Things have gone up and down for us. I’m to the point now where I don’t know where to turn, and I don’t know what to do. I’m starting to feel like I don’t get the respect I need and deserve. If I ask him to go and do ANYTHING with me he flips out because I’m too co-dependant, even though I do everything alone. I feel like I put everything I have in me into this relationship and he’s not. I feel like he thinks the things he says and does is okay, because he’ll apalogize later. Which I don’t think they are.
He ALWAYS blames me. He’ll flip out on me and then say it was my fault. I didn’t yell at me you yelled at me how is that my fault. For example this morning I simply stated I needed new glasses and he went off on me about how I’m such a whiner and all I do is complain. How he got that from me saying I needed new glasses I wasn’t sure. And to me I don’t think that being selfish and mean is acceptable.
He’s only willing to go and do stuff if it’s directly related to him. He’s not supportive. I decided to go back to school a little over a year ago, to get my degree, and instead of him being excited for me, the first thing that comes out of his mouth is how I’ll quit again. Which I went once when I was 18 and it was right out of high school and we had a lot of family issues going on and instead of continuing my education and paying for one I wasn’t getting I quit. And that was 7 years before I decided to go back.
Some how it’s ALWAYS my fault, he can’t admit that he’s mean he can’t admit that he’s wrong. he’ll just be stubborn and keep pointing the finger at me and blaming me. We have a VERY poorly behaved dog, if I tell him to sit or lay down he flips out on me and tells me I need to have more patients for the dog, although he has less for me then I could EVER for the dog. He treats our dog better than he does me.
I love him more than anything in this world, and he makes me laugh more than anyone I know, and we have a good time when things are good,. I just don’t know how to get over how he’s so mean sometimes. I’m SUPER sensative and he knows that and knows what to say or do to get to me, and I hate it.
What should I do?!?!
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