You’re 21 and these guys are 22 and 23, and you said in your pre-posting questionnaire that you’ve only been dating them a month. Yet there’s been so much drama in that month!!! My advice is for you to step back and take a breath. Here are a few pointers:
* You’re not friends with these guys. You’re dating them. It’s different than friendship, so get over the idea that you may lose a friendship with them. It’s not there to lose. These are romantic interests — find your friends elsewhere. Life will be much easier for you when you process this. 😉
* You should date someone for three months before you decide whether or not to continue dating them. During that time you should be playing the field, as should they. When you slow things down, you get to know each other better and reduce drama. So play the field and if after dating for three months, you want to continue dating them, wait until the six month mark to decide if you want to be monogamous. Do this, and watch the drama disappear!
* Relax. There’s anxiety coming through your post, as if you have to perfect the process of dating and relationships. It’s a process and you have to ease into it so you can learn and figure out who you are and what you want, and who you work best with. 🙂
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