Dear April,
I never thought I would be in a position to have to choose between two ladies, but I am…lets call them “A” and “B” for the story 🙂

Lady “A” I met when in Czech Republic for work (i’m from Australia) – she was the hotel receptionist. Funny, beautiful, we had a real connection – chatted until 3am each night shift she had (her English is quite bad but we understood each other). Turned out she had a boyfriend of 5 years, so we were only chatting, nothing more (bar exchanging Facebook names). Every day we chatted – turned out her boyfriend had anger management issues (punching holes in walls/doors, drinking etc) and the last few years she was not happy. They were building a house together – she had decided once the house was built (approx April 2015) if things weren’t better she would leave him. All of our talks were with no sexual hints – pure friendship. We talked as if best friends – obviously I was keen on her but never said anything as I knew of the boyfriend. But it got to the stage that we both knew we had feelings, and it was discussed we would continue to chat as friends until June (it was Jan 2015) when i was going to be back there – if we were both single we would try something. As is was a few days later he guessed her facebook password and read her notes to me and confronted her – so she split from him (and I now have a corrupt policeman hating me haha). Not the best situation as she wanted to break up because he was bad, not because of me…. I was in Germany for work in a few weeks later so we decided best to find out how we felt now by her flying there for the week. Yes we were both worried about me being the “rebound guy” but we thought we would try. And magical it was 🙂 then I went back to Australia, she went home and we both missed each other, so I then flew her to Oz for 3 weeks in April, once again magical. Unfortunately she also has a medical problem (Crohns disease) which makes travel, stress and different foods very hard and dangerous – and also very hard for an Oz Visa…
By that time i had been offered a job in Singapore! So we decided if our June trip/visit went well and we loved each other that we would both move there. She would not work but study English full time (she is 31, I am 39) and I would support her. No it’s not a great job and yes it would be hard, but we could make it happen. Now i knew i was crazy for her and told her so, knowing she did not love me. Which, yes it hurt not hearing it but I knew the risk that I wold tell her of my love – hell i was prepared to pay for her life to be with me! Anyway, June 2015 came and the trip was great, but she still did not know her feelings if she would love me or not. I had to make the decision so i quit my job and took up the Singapore one as this was the only one that she would have a chance of getting the easier Visa and us trying to have a life…..

and then she broke up with me….

She was at the stage that she now wanted her alone time, that she has grown up in a small village and knew everyone and did not want the excitement of big cities and also with her disease, language problems etc…so essentially, yes i had been the rebound guy….

So here I was, broken-hearted, a few weeks from moving to Singapore with a new life ahead of me. The move went well considering, I still kept in contact just in case but it was not to be, so our contact obviously lessened…

Then a few months later I met “B”….via internet dating – I literally knew 3 people here so needed to expand my range of friends. “B” is smart, (just got her PhD), beautiful, similar interests etc..she is move focused on her career instead of wanting kids (which I now am).

A concern I have with “B” however is religion. I am agnostic and fiercely reject anyone’s attempts to “convert” me to anything. She does not practice but her family does, and if in future we married I would be expected to convert to have the marriage recognized in her country ((she is Iranian). She tells me she would not expect this or for children to also follow religion, but of course it’s an unknown factor as to what would happen in the future…plus – I still have “A” in my heart even though we have only had 7 weeks together over the 1 year of us knowing (and 50,000 messages)

SO…..new years eve 2015/2016, i get a message from “A” that she was talking to some new friends about her life and she has now realized that she was a fool to leave me and misses me, and wants me back…I told her of “B” and she is willing for me to wait to make a decision as to what I should do and who i should choose…coming up to my 3 month anniversary with “B” and also the same day is valentines day i need to make a decision…

I make pros and cons lists and “B” comes out on top – but If I add a weighing in scale “A” having my heart still beats all….

So April – your thoughts? “A” is beautiful, funny, a pure angel – but has a serious disease, minimal English language abilities (but is learning) and if she moved here would not work at all – but with only 7 weeks together we still are not 100% sure of each other but my heart is still there…she has my heart……”B” is beautiful, funny, smart, an impressive start to a career so financially we would be more secure – but possibly has a religion issue/concern in the future, plus my heart is not devoted right now as i’m still holding for my ex.. help!!