So I’ve dated my boyfriend for what will be two years this April. I’ve been away at school and lived four hours away. So me being a poor, broke college girl, he would always come visit me. During my college breaks when I came home, I would try to come see him, but he would always come up with an excuse. Now that I am graduated and living 45 minutes away from where he lives, he still insists he comes to see me instead of me coming to visit.
FINALLY I was able to get some sort of an answer why he didn’t want me visiting: His parents had lost their house and had to move in with him, and he was embarrassed that he didn’t tell me they were living with him. That really isn’t an issue with me at all and shouldn’t be a reason for keeping me away so long. The first time he agreed for me to come see him, he called me about five minutes before I arrived to tell me to meet him at a gas station; he had gotten into a fight with his mom and left. So I didn’t see where he lived that day. The second and last time he agreed for me to come see him, his parents where not home. His house is average, not cluttered or embarrassingly dirty by no means. They’re not hoarders or anything, so he shouldn’t be embarrassed by the house. But his parents weren’t home. That was probably the reason I was allowed.
He has said he wants to take things “slow” and that his family isn’t like my family. I’m not sure what he means by that. He won’t tell me anything about them. There were no pictures on the walls of any family members at the house. They don’t have a Facebook. There was clear evidence other people lived there in that house. They never call him or text him when he is with me. What should I do? I don’t want a dead end relationship. People ask me, “Do you see yourself marrying him?” I can’t answer. I want to know him more before I think about that, and I believe seeing him around his family would help. What do I do? Should it really take THIS long?