My girlfriend (24) and I have been living together for about 6 months. We had previously been dating online for about another 6 months prior to this, and there has never been much sex. Once a week if I’m lucky, and I’ve always wanted more. I’ve tried being understanding and asking her if there’s anything I can do to increase her sex drive or w/e. It seems that when we get to the actual sex, she loves it, moans loudly, really gets into it and whatnot. It seems the problem is just getting her in the mindset of having sex.

Another problem is that she quit her job shortly after moving in. She claims she hated it and couldn’t stand the people and this has caused her to go in a pretty significant debt and hasn’t been able to pay her half of the rent for many months, leaving her owing me around 2000 dollars. She has a job now, and will begin working soon (I hope) and she should be able to eventually pay me back. In the meantime I have been paying all the bills and yet I don’t feel she is even grateful for this.

I love her very much and I am extremely attached to her. But time and time again she will make empty promises of sex and 99% of the time she won’t follow through with it, leaving me feeling like shit and like she can just walk all over me. What can I do? I have tried time and time again to talk to her about it, how it makes me feel like she’s being disrespectful and inconsiderate of my needs. If it were up to me, I’d be having sex 3 times a day but I’m fine with having it every couple of days or whatnot. I just want her to meet me halfway and be cooperative. I’ve discussed all of this with her to no avail.

What can I do? Am I overreacting? Should I be content with what I have?