My ex and father of my children left me after me moving back in and living with him for 6 month for another woman. (we were together for 7 years and then have been on and off for 2) He had told me for months they were just friends. Then one day he said he wasn’t happy and was only pretending to be happy. He came back almost immediately saying he was sorry and he only wanted to be with me and that he truly was happy with the way our relationship was. I told him maybe he should see other people and that I needed time to figure things out and that maybe someone is out there that wont hurt me the way he did. he immediately went looking for a girlfriend because he “couldn’t bare the thought of me being with someone else” after giving it some thought, i told him we could try again and he told me it was too late (about a week after he had just promised he’d do anything to have his family back) and then comes to me and says he was going to break things off with the stranger he’s been talking to so that he can put in the effort to have his family back but he wanted to still be able to talk to this girl because they are just friends. when I told him that if he’s going to prove to me that he isn’t going anywhere he needs to stop talking to her or let me have access to his phone. needless to say we got into a fight about how I don’t trust him and him putting me in a bad position by expecting me to be ok with his “just friends” status with this girl he almost started dating. Now he is seems depressed and withdrawn and says he doesn’t know anything anymore about what he wants. he cant even tell me if its a matter of him choosing us over someone else, all he says is “I don’t know what going on in my head” and “I cant figure anything out and I cant be with anyone” What gives??? cant tell if he is mad that I don’t trust him or if he’s deciding who he’d rather be with or if he feels pushed that I am taking away his freedom by telling him he cant talk to his “friends”. I really don’t know what to do? or what is even going on in his head? Is he playing me and contemplating who he should choose? or is he depressed and trying to figure everything out.
