I am interested in this woman who I just found out recently has drama in her life both past and present. I am not one to judge anyone as I know everyone has their own story to tell about something, but in the past I have dated someone who took the negative of their past relationship into ours in the present relationship and it did not work out.
This girl, I have only just spent time with her as friends, and this past Sunday it was a unexpected thrill to hang out with her for almost the whole day, along with some mutual friends.
At one point, she pulled me aside and just started venting like crazy about some personal and private things she has going on and has been going though recently. I am flattered that she trusts me enough to tell me these things, as we know a lot but not all about each other. Many of the things she told me were very personal and for someone I have not known that long to open up like that, it was totally unexpected.
I listened to every word she said, gave her advice on some things and even shared some private things in my own life that were similar to hers and how I got over them to help her.
I found out she is living with her ex, but they are broken up. She sleeps on the couch or over friends house while he stays at the house, bringing over new girls he is dating. Sometime she has friends over, but more its her going out all the time with friends to escape the pain and aggrivation and just escape from everything dealing with him all together.
She also has insecurities in how she looks, even though myself and others told her she looks beautiful !
One of the last things she told me was that she was interested in a guy who she met 4 months ago. They are not officially dating but for about a month and a half they would text or call every day, then it slowly started to stop, until it officially stopped and when he does message or call, its always excuse after excuse why he didn’t call. Me and others believe he is not interested in her and just stringing her along.
She told me in private that if she does not hear from him in two weeks, she is done with him and moving on.
Next week we have plans to spend the whole day together and with all she has going on and has had going on, im just being a great friend, and taking one day at a time with her and seeing if it goes anywhere as we learn more about each other.
My question is, why would she just out of no where open up and start venting to me about such private matters ?
Do you think she is interested in me and was seeing what my response to these things would be or she was just feeling down and needed someone to talk to?
Especially with the comment about the one guy “waiting two weeks and moving on” it will be two weeks when we see each other next.
All she told me we talked for almost a good hour alone, and to me it seemed more then just her needing to vent, like she was waiting for me to say something she needed to hear, and not sure if i said it or even if this was the reason.
Any thoughts?
