[Wolfy2]

My ex of 4 years broke up with me 2 1/2 months ago because she said “It felt like it doesn’t even matter if I was in your life or not” I stopped giving her my attention like I used to which was true I began to get comfortable. I did the entire do’s and don’ts of break ups like beg, cry etc.

So I began NC, did it for 5 weeks I went to talk to her it was little weird at first but then it was ok small chats I tried to become her friend again, At one point I asked if I’m a nuisance talking to her she told me far from it I thought things was going great. Then one day during the week after NC she asked me do I really want to be her friend I lied and said yea. She said how can you go from being madly in love with someone to being just friends she told she doesn’t feel happy talking to me all she feel is pain and anger. She told how her anger is building up so much just talking to me right now.

I tried to explain lets work it out and be friends but she wasn’t hearing it. So I ask her two questions do you still think about me and will you block me from whatsapp. For the first questions she refused to answer then she agreed to unblock me from whatsapp.

I haven’t talked to her since then for 4 weeks now, I want to give this one shot. During NC I got myself together dated partied bettered myself but I still miss her, I’m at the point that if she rejects me I can deal with it and get over it yea I will be little hurt and upset but not like the first time.
What I really need advice on is taking her to dinner. What I have planned is sending her 24 roses with an note just saying “Dinner?”. I’m not putting her on the spot and if she doesn’t want to talk she won’t reply. Figure it’s best if i get a woman point of view on my situation

TL;DR: Trying to make things right, is sending my ex flowers and her favorite chocolates with a note saying “Dinner?” the right move or would you recommend a different approach?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think it’s a great idea. It’s bold and it makes a romantic statement, and it also addresses the issue of taking her for granted. That said…. simply asking “Dinner?” with one word, may play into the feeling she had of not mattering. You might want to use the opportunity to compliment her and make her feel sought after. Tell her how much it would mean to you if she’d spend the evening with you, and that you hope you can make it worth her while — or something like that in your own words. In other words, don’t waste the card — use it to address the problem that broke you up in the first place: indifference. 😉 You can even ask her for a specific date at a specific restaurant that she loves or always wanted to try, or is hard to get a table at — which shows you’re not just asking her out for some random date, you have a plan that she’s the star of. 😎

Good luck!

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[Wolfy2]

I have reservations at” What ever restaurant” for Thursday would greatly appreciate you joining me
Hope I was able to make your day and put the big amazing smile on your face.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good luck! 😀

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[Wolfy2]

Opps I meant to ask if that message is good enough.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think it’s great. And…. [quote]You can even ask her for a specific date at a specific restaurant that she loves or always wanted to try, or is hard to get a table at — which shows you’re not just asking her out for some random date, you have a plan that she’s the star of. [/quote] Remember that you said she broke up with you because she didn’t feel like she mattered, and because you’re trying to do damage control, you should use every opportunity you have to show her she is important. 🙂 Details matter!

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