[OKNOW]

Well this will be a bit of a read;
Last Oct. I met a really nice man via a dating site. I’m 40 he’s 51. We both have a divorce under our belts. He has older children. Mine are still in their teen years.
He’s a long haul truck driver (and lives 4 hours away from me). This doesn’t bother me I like being able to go to a store and get what I want thanks to truck drivers getting goods to stores.
We have a comfortable relationship. We started off right away with little to no nervousness between us just feelings of respect trust and all that good stuff that helps make a relationship.
Well back in May, we had talked about feelings. Putting them into words. Not heavy ones like love or marriage but ones like caring, important to me and becoming exclusive. Not that either of us was seeing anyone else but we could have cause we are just dating. Anyhow a few days after this talk he tried to push me away via text (he was on the road) I gave my reasons why I thought he was being foolish called him a coward for texting me that way and said goodbye. I’m not going to play games. He kept texting me. So all I did was repeat why I thought he was being foolish. The next day he said I don’t want to fight anymore I said fine by me goodbye. He asked did you really mean what you said. I said yes. He replied Ok angel if you can handle my job and me being gone lots then we’re good.
And things have been for the past few months .He’s even opened up more and talked about himself ,kids ,etc.
Last Monday as he was heading through my town we met for coffee like we do whenever we can. The talk was great we laughed lots. He leaned towards me and stared in my eyes pretty much the whole time. He again mentioned that when his marriage ended he thought no one would ever be interested in him even though he hoped. I just waved my hand at him and said me I am.
On Wednesday at work I heard a cute country song about couple driving around sing to the radio enjoy just looking at each other. Nothing major emotion wise. He text back heard it, listen to this song. The main chorus is about how nobody can LOVE me better then he does. It was a kick in the gut for me. I said WOW I’m saving that song. He then next sends one about how if he was single he’d be looking for a girl like me. Again very emotional. On Friday he sent me a list of half dozen love ballads.
So this is my problem. Should I be worried he’s going to freak out and push me away again. Cause I’ll let him go. Or take the songs at face value and realize he does “love” me and said it in a way that feels right for him.

[AskApril Masini]

[quote]So this is my problem. Should I be worried he’s going to freak out and push me away again. [/quote]

I don’t think you should worry that he’s going to freak out and push you away, but I do think you should pay attention to why he freaked out and pushed you away. 😉 Men hate having “the talk” — whether it’s about feelings, commitment, the relationship — they don’t want to have it. So my advice to you is not to bring up or participate in “the talk” again. 🙂 You know how he feels about you if you pay attention to his behavior and if he pushes you away as a result of something you’re doing or something that’s happened, you can learn a lot about him, yourself and the relationship by just paying attention to the catalyst. 😉

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[OKNOW]

Thank-you…..I’ll just keep letting things play out as they are. At least it still feels right.

[AskApril Masini]

You’re very welcome! 😀

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